Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.

Fear & Happiness cannot occur together in the mind. And PTSD is the brain locked in perrmanent fear.


‘Fear & Happiness cannot occur together’, so in the fear based PTSD driven brain, happiness cannot occur….

Just read a very interesting post stating fear and happiness cannot exist together in the same brain, regardless of faith, or well…..anything.

So anyone with severe PTSD, which is fear locked in the brain – because it knows the worst CAN happen, because it DID happen and it believes it can again at any time and is in permanent danger alert – constant fear, therefore cannot feel true happiness, because the brain is fear driven in a way that non PTSD brains don’t function.

My doc said I have had PTSD since childhood, just suppressed for a long time due to my inability to deal with, culminating in a complete break down last year, of my brains inability to suppress it any longer. But suppressing the symptoms and memories doesn’t suppress the brains being fear driven.

So, apparently, I have never known real happiness, or real joy, like other people can feel.
Just a sense of knowing what is meant to be happiness and a mothering instinct that drives me to do the best for my children and want to see them happy.

Makes a lot of sense, because PTSD is an injury to the brain, and everything as a result, is involuntary, completely fear based and cannot be fixed with happy thoughts, or a more positive attitude, because it is all totally involuntary and that’s why there is no cure.

So apparently asking me to cheer up, is like asking someone else to stop their kidneys working. You can’t – it’s involuntary.

My state of mind is dictated by my brains level of fear at any given time, which ranges from moderate to severe.

Interesting reading.

(And update on this post 28/07/13,
I do believe you can have PTSD and still have joy in your life – I am proof of that right now.
I have joy in my life, increasing amounts of it, and yet I still have PTSD.
So, I believe that when the symptoms are severe, then happiness is less likely to be felt, and also when grieving is occurring, happiness is less likely to be felt.
But, I also still agree that telling someone with PTSD to just ‘think happy thoughts’ is not going to help them improve their PTSD symptoms.
Prayer works, God’s healing works, but just thinking happy thoughts does not.
Telling someone to ‘count their blessings’ also does not help. And I have not been told to just count my blessings by either of my Christian counsellors.
Joy is one of the fruits of the Spirit increasing in my life and I praise God for that entirely).

Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

3 thoughts on “Fear & Happiness cannot occur together in the mind. And PTSD is the brain locked in perrmanent fear.

  1. I developed PTSD after watching my house burn to the ground when I was five years old, and watching my mom run back in time after time to retrieve the things she’d worked so hard to buy, until the last time she opened the door to go back in, the flames lept out and singed her hair. I did not feel, nor understand, real happiness for a long, long time.I knew when I was supposed to be happy and how to act happy, but I was dead inside for a long time. Thank you for helping me understand that a little bit better.