‘Fear & Happiness cannot occur together’, so in the fear based PTSD driven brain, happiness cannot occur….
Just read a very interesting post stating fear and happiness cannot exist together in the same brain, regardless of faith, or well…..anything.
So anyone with severe PTSD, which is fear locked in the brain – because it knows the worst CAN happen, because it DID happen and it believes it can again at any time and is in permanent danger alert – constant fear, therefore cannot feel true happiness, because the brain is fear driven in a way that non PTSD brains don’t function.
My doc said I have had PTSD since childhood, just suppressed for a long time due to my inability to deal with, culminating in a complete break down last year, of my brains inability to suppress it any longer. But suppressing the symptoms and memories doesn’t suppress the brains being fear driven.
So, apparently, I have never known real happiness, or real joy, like other people can feel.
Just a sense of knowing what is meant to be happiness and a mothering instinct that drives me to do the best for my children and want to see them happy.
Makes a lot of sense, because PTSD is an injury to the brain, and everything as a result, is involuntary, completely fear based and cannot be fixed with happy thoughts, or a more positive attitude, because it is all totally involuntary and that’s why there is no cure.
So apparently asking me to cheer up, is like asking someone else to stop their kidneys working. You can’t – it’s involuntary.
My state of mind is dictated by my brains level of fear at any given time, which ranges from moderate to severe.
(And update on this post 28/07/13,
I do believe you can have PTSD and still have joy in your life – I am proof of that right now.
I have joy in my life, increasing amounts of it, and yet I still have PTSD.
So, I believe that when the symptoms are severe, then happiness is less likely to be felt, and also when grieving is occurring, happiness is less likely to be felt.
But, I also still agree that telling someone with PTSD to just ‘think happy thoughts’ is not going to help them improve their PTSD symptoms.
Prayer works, God’s healing works, but just thinking happy thoughts does not.
Telling someone to ‘count their blessings’ also does not help. And I have not been told to just count my blessings by either of my Christian counsellors.
Joy is one of the fruits of the Spirit increasing in my life and I praise God for that entirely).