Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.

Forgiveness Does Not Mean Forgetting…..


Not for PTSD survivors.

We can’t forget – our brains have the hurt, trauma, abuse carefully stored and the PTSD makes it impossible to forget – it replays, involuntarily.

It’s not case of us not wanting to ‘let it go’.

We CANNOT let it go.

Our PTSD brains don’t let that happen, whether we like it or not.

So, the issues of forgiveness is very emotive and very difficult. Far more difficult for PTSD survivors.

If you struggle with forgiveness, whether a Christian, or not, whether religious or not, do not be hard on yourself.

Most people find true forgiveness hard – people who don’t have PTSD.

Most people who say they have ‘forgiven’, haven’t really. They say it because they feel they are obliged to, feel pressure to, feel God will be annoyed if they don’t.

There is a process in forgiveness and it takes time, sometimes a long time and that IS okay, regardless of what society, family, friends, Christians, pastors etc tell you.

If someone hasn’t been through this process fully, it’s not true forgiveness.

It is your journey, including forgiveness. I do know it is key to healing.

I fully believe forgiveness is needed psychologically and spiritually, and I know God created our brains, emotions etc and I know He will help me forgive everyone fully, in the end, fully, because it is in my heart to do so.

But, it takes time and I am in a forgiveness process for every person that has caused hurt and harm.

Praise God, because I know how much un-forgiveness hurts.

Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

3 thoughts on “Forgiveness Does Not Mean Forgetting…..

  1. I handle forgiveness this way. My father was a violent critical narcissist an abuser to me, I let him answer for his life without judgment from me, I am to busy living and answering for my own life to bother with his.

    All of it is over decades ago and has faded with integration and healing.