Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.

Bullying and abuse often occurs within situations where there is hierarchy…


Like within families. Within workplaces. Within Churches. Within Organisations.

My counsellor and I were discussing this and she has seen abuse and bullying occur within all of these.

People are often attracted to positions of power because they need it. They are actually deeply insecure and want people to look up to them, need their ego’s and carefully maintained image’s boosted, want the hierarchy and the adoration.

Parents abuse this power, bosses at work abuse this power, religious leaders abuse this power, anyone who has a position of power, can abuse their power.

When talking to her last week about a certain situation of this I have been dealing with, she explained that often with this position of power comes the sheep like loyalty of others and anyone who challenges that hierarchy, will often be disbelieved. Even with evidence. People won’t want to accept their ‘boss’ or ‘leader’ or ‘parent’ etc, could do anything wrong. If these sheep are friends of theirs, or in a relationship, they back them, no matter what. Even with evidence, often the sheep will still refuse to believe it.

It’s how people in positions of power and control can get away with what they do, for so long.

Plus the other people in power who are meant to deal with it, often won’t. Instead opting for the easy solution, just shut up, placate, ignore and preferable get rid of the victim and keep the status quo. If it’s too much hassle to deal with the problem appropriately and would cause too much issue, cause too much damage to the organization, don’t. Deal with the easy solution, go with the bully, disbelieve the victim, problem solved.

Society is not fair. Justice rarely occurs. We live in a truly fallen world. And sadly, most cannot even see the extent.

And my counsellor is right. People are weak. People are self serving and don’t want anymore hassle in their lives then they need to have.

And accepting that is hard.

But to not accept it is harder, because it eats away at you.

Instead, feeling sorry for these people is better. They cannot help who they are, their weaknesses, their lack of character and lack of insight.

Something I am in a process of having to learn.

Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

3 thoughts on “Bullying and abuse often occurs within situations where there is hierarchy…

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  2. I was in one of those situations at a church…there solution was get rid of me and keep the abuser.
    And it was what you said …no one wants to believe that they were abusive….it must have been me or my imagination.
    I stood up to them and no one else would say anything….so I was the bad guy.