My heart breaks when abuse survivors are not believed.

It breaks my heart when I hear abuse victims saying people – family, friends – don’t believe them.
I know how devastating this feels, how invalidating it feels.

It hurts deeply to not be believed.

What we need to remember is – were those people there? Were they present – in the room during the time the abuse was occurring?

Know your audience…how to talk to trauma survivors is key in knowing how they will listen.

Throughout my life, I have had vast experience in learning how to adapt to suit the audience/person.

I learned this early, as a child, needing to learn what to do and what not to do and what to say, to try to keep myself from getting hurt anymore than I was my multiple abusers.

I started to doubt my own sanity……..exactly what the devil wanted, of course!

I have had on ongoing situation of hurt and harm caused, that by no fault of mine, became a huge drama. I was shocked at the way it was dealt with, shocked by the lack of honesty and self reflection.

I am someone who can self reflect on a deep level, and honesty is one of my strong values, along with integrity to myself and my integrity to God.