Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.

PTSD is not an excuse for aggressive, abusive behaviour…


PTSD does not give us the right to be abusive to our loved ones. It’s not an excuse to shout and scream, or be verbally abusive, or physically abusive.

PTSD does involve anger, but our love for our loved ones, our understanding of what is acceptable behaviour, must remain more of a need, than our need to vent anger.

It isn’t our loved ones fault we have PTSD.

Our loved ones should not pay the price, for harm caused by others.

If anger is something we struggle with, it is okay to accept that, but we need to vent it safely, and not to others.

Get a punch bag, exercise, go to therapy to learn how to vent anger appropriately.

But, don’t use PTSD as an excuse for any level of aggression/abuse to others, because it is wrong and is exactly what increases stigma about PTSD.

Media already portrays PTSD sufferer’s as violent, crazy people – please don’t add to that.

If you are aggressive and abusive to other people, you are an abusive and aggressive person, who has chosen not to control it and chosen to vent it onto others and that is not okay.

Find ways to vent anger safely, appropriately and if you can’t, you need to remove yourself from people, until you have had the appropriate therapy to learn how.

Abuse is abuse and is never okay.

Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

2 thoughts on “PTSD is not an excuse for aggressive, abusive behaviour…

  1. I’m upset now at myself for letting a narcissist use PTSD like a badge to manipulate me when I knew they had all the signs of a somatic narcissist but I read it can be a symptom of PTSD so was trying to be patient but keep a bit of a distance (friendship not relationship). But you can’t address the abuse, if you try you get a good dose of narcissistic rage for trying to get her to deal with her behaviour and unless you cower to that, get cut out and become victim of a smear campaign. We cut each other lose when I finally lost my temper and yelled at her for trying to use our friendship to manipulate and demean me into doing something for her. She’s done worse to those she’s dated.

    • There are people who claim to have PTSD but actually they are narcissists.
      I am so sorry you endured a narcissist. And you are right, you cannot address issues with narcissistic people, as they will not admit to their issues. And will attack you for raising their issues.
      They are very abusive.