Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.


The term ‘forgiveness’ is too hard for many abuse survivors.

I wrote this on my community healing page yesterday.

Forgiveness is always a very controversial and emotive topic for most abuse survivors, so it is one I always approach with caution and choose my words carefully. I also have my faith as to why I believe in forgiveness, but even without that, I believe in it, being for the abused.

This is what I wrote; Continue reading


Do you know who has messed up Christianity and who has caused people to turn away from it???

Christians. Or rather, religious people.

I know I was not brought up in a Christian home/environment for many reasons. One of which being able to easily see the following, and not having being brought up in a Church means I can see things more objectively.

A lot of Christians brought up in Church’s, don’t know any other way. They often have little life experience to apply any form of analysis of what occurs. They often are sheep and go along with ‘how it is done’ and know no other way. Continue reading


Why I know when not to just ‘let it go’.

I know I have the ability to not let some things go. I can let go of things I consider unimportant, or have processed, but I know when something is an issue that needs dealing with and I need to hold on to.

Some will say this is still holding on to anger, un-forgiveness, or whatever, usually those who want me to let it go for their own selfish self motivated needs, or judgement.

I know and I believe God puts issues onto the hearts of those with the strongest ability to see matters through and not just ‘let it go’ for very good reasons. Continue reading


Ephesians 5. And why I have been led to read this.

3 But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God’s holy people. 4 Nor should there be obscenity, foolish talk or coarse joking, which are out of place, but rather thanksgiving. 5 For of this you can be sure: No immoral, impure or greedy person—such a person is an idolater—has any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and of God. 6 Let no one deceive you with empty words, for because of such things God’s wrath comes on those who are disobedient. 7 Therefore do not be partners with them.
8 For you were once darkness, but now you are light in the Lord. Live as children of light 9 (for the fruit of the light consists in all goodness, righteousness and truth) 10 and find out what pleases the Lord. 11 Have nothing to do with the fruitless deeds of darkness, but rather expose them. Continue reading