I’ve just found out that someone who put a nasty accusatory comment on my facebook, who then apologised in private, clearly was not sincere in their apology.
And I know why the fake apology was given, because in his nasty comment, he had showed himself to be another bully from the Church where an ongoing formal complaint is in process. So, he ‘had’ to apologise. Even my husband had stated this was no doubt this persons motivation for apologising and he was right..
But, I showed this person grace and gave him the opportunity to show in time if he was sincere in his apology and wanting to ‘stay in touch’, as were his words. He has now blocked myself and my husband, for no reason, which I couldn’t less about, but it proves his insincerity in the apology and basically anything he said.
And I have been praying for this man and his family. But then, I am a nice, genuine person. And have felt sorry for this family. I have offered to help this family.
This combined with all the other fake, lying behaviours that have come into the light with several of these Church people, is sad.
It really is very sad.
I am able to step out of the emotional hurt these people cause, and look at it objectively, and with insight and clarity. My doctor has even commented on my ability to do this. It is why she said God is using me in this whole abuse complaint, because of my strong abilities and insight needed in this.
These people seriously need help. That Church needs help and I have prayed about that too.
Their actions and behaviours are so obviously fake and yet they don’t see that others ‘can’ see through their behaviours and lies and see their heart motivation, and it ain’t pretty. And so can God and yet they fail to remember this.
Their inability to reflect and have self insight, is sad.
I have to feel sorry for them.
I always end up feeling sorry for people, even if they hurt me, because I can see their weaknesses, when they can’t.
My husband doesn’t feel sorry for any of them.
But, I do. It’s sad.