Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.


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Narcissists will always find an excuse for their actions.

I grew up with narcissists, I know how they operate, how they think, and their deep need to always deflect blame, excuse their sinful behaviour.

I am currently dealing with a narcissist, who tried to use the excuse that ‘transference’ was why he acted so highly inappropriately with me, as a pastor, in a counselling situation.

I have been thinking more about this whole situation – the bad relationship he has with his own parents, the issues with his brother and how I have always believed there was more to that family situation than I know.

I have had considerable abuse in my life, and I have had soft boundaries. This man pushed way past many boundaries as a pastor and as a friend, deliberately, knowingly and then when he’d been caught out by his wife, dealt with the situation at the time badly and with no concern about me, only about himself. Continue reading


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NEWSFLASH!!!! So the Pope has said he won’t judge gay people…..

This was in the news headlines today – as if this is something new to Christianity – this issue of ‘judging’ people. People they don’t even know personally.

Yes, we all do it and we would be liars if we said we didn’t.

But, I don’t judge someone because they are gay.

I assess people for their character and their heart.

I accept differences in people, I know I am not perfect and sin is sin, so who am I to judge someone for being gay, or tell them they are wrong.

If you are gay, that is between you and God, nothing to do with me. Continue reading