I grew up with narcissists, I know how they operate, how they think, and their deep need to always deflect blame, excuse their sinful behaviour.
I am currently dealing with a narcissist, who tried to use the excuse that ‘transference’ was why he acted so highly inappropriately with me, as a pastor, in a counselling situation.
I have been thinking more about this whole situation – the bad relationship he has with his own parents, the issues with his brother and how I have always believed there was more to that family situation than I know.
I have had considerable abuse in my life, and I have had soft boundaries. This man pushed way past many boundaries as a pastor and as a friend, deliberately, knowingly and then when he’d been caught out by his wife, dealt with the situation at the time badly and with no concern about me, only about himself. Continue reading