I have had a situation on my community support page blow up about my humour.
I wrote a post there which stated;
‘Anyone know and good self help books for narcissism’. Yes this is a joke.
This received great response from most people, as most people on my page have been hurt and abused by people on the narcissistic/sociopath spectrum.
I rarely post jokes, but occasionally I do, to remind people to find the light hearted side of life.
I have also made PTSD jokes, as I try to see the humour in having PTSD. Like my jokes;
‘How do you know when you have severe PTSD? When your wheelie bin goes out more than you do’.
‘How do you wake up someone with PTSD? With a big stick and run like hell’
I believe humour helps, I believe humour is healing.
If God hadn’t given me a sense of humour, my life would have been even worse and my life has been bad enough.
Do I believe narcissists need help, yes I do.
Do I believe narcissists need to be treated with compassion when they seek help, yes I do.
Do I have to like narcissists and their abusive behaviour, no I don’t.
Do I have to tolerate and ignore and therefore enable their abusive behaviour, no I don’t.
Is my community page a community support page for narcissists – no it isn’t.
In fact, that is a joke of it’s own, because narcissists wouldn’t consider they need a support page.
Lots of people responded by making up titles of ‘Narcissist Self Help Books’, which made me giggle, like;
‘It’s all about Me Me Me and nothing to do with you you you.’
‘Hello I’m a narcissist and I don’t care who you are, and this is the truth’, by I.M.God.’
‘Malignant Self Love. Definitive book on narcissism written by a man with narcissism. He, of course, says it’s the best book on the subject.’
‘I’m okay, You’re Wrong.’
These made me laugh and brought a smile that I really appreciated.
Is narcissism funny, no it isn’t and I do feel sorry for narcissists, it is a subject I know well and the abuse they cause is deep.
I don’t want anything bad to happen to narcs, I want them to seek help and learn to understand what they are doing and how much they hurt people and they need to stop.
But, some humour – is okay and I don’t apologise for that.
God gave us humour, as a joyful, fun part of life. If the jokes are appropriate and not nasty, then they are okay be me.
Life can’t be all doom and gloom and sometimes people seem far more committed to being miserable, than they seem committed to healing.