Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.

Loneliness, is incredibly hard.


There are so many people in this world suffering, with no-one who cares, no-one who understands, no-one to hold their hand.

Mother Teresa said human loneliness, having no one to care, being forgotten, is a worse form of suffering than starving and she is right.

I know as a human, I can only help a limited amount of people, but my heart hurts, for all those who will never be helped, will die, never having had someone in their lives to care.

I get these overwhelming emotions of pain when I think of this.

I know total aloneness, with total loss of hope.

I know suffering and no-one caring. At the time, I didn’t know Jesus, so my understanding of terminal aloneness, whilst in deep suffering is something I will always understand and know others feel too.

This brings empathy and compassion that feels overwhelming some times. My heart hurts badly for people.

I want to take everyone’s hand and help them, lead them to Jesus, so they will never again feel alone.

And I can’t and I have to tread carefully on my community support page, because I know telling people to seek Jesus, will push many away, although I have had several conversations with people, who are now attending Church praise God, because it is Him that draws people to Him, to a journey to seek Jesus and walk holding His hand on this otherwise very painful, very lonely road to trying to deal with a traumatic past.

When I see people like homeless people, people with obvious mental health problems, I always wonder what has happened in their life, to cause this. No-one chooses mental health disorders, or being homeless. It’s so painfully sad.

Grieving a world full of suffering, sin, feeling this, understanding deep suffering, is hard, but I know that if I can only help a few people in this world, then that matters.

Plus, I need to emotionally protect myself more and not get too dragged down into the pain of this understanding and to have balance – because there is so much good in the world too, so much joy, good people, many people helping others.

But, I know I have this empathy for a reason, to help others.

And I have to remember the wise words I’ve heard ‘you can only help one person at a time’.

Which is so true and wise advice, but it still just doesn’t feel enough.

Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

3 thoughts on “Loneliness, is incredibly hard.

  1. Absolutely, I have deeply deep loneliness in my life and it was starving my soul, relationships and others who care for you make life worth living 🙂

    • I understand that well and I know loneliness and having no-one can be soul destroying.
      I know how even the kindness of strangers, has been something in my life in the past, that made my life worth living.
      It’s one reason I set up my community support page. To give a little hope and validation to people, who may have none.