I believe narcissism and sociopaths are responsible for a considerable amount of abuse in the world.
I also believe this is very poor mental health, mostly because they cannot accept there is anything wrong with them – which is a form of insanity.
Not understanding yourself, not having self insight, not knowing you have poor mental health and you need to change and a complete incapacity to change – is the definition of insanity.
And what’s scarier, is Satan can use this so easily and I know he can, I have experienced this, I have endured spiritual abuse from a pastor with high levels of narcissistic traits and a lack of remorse and an incapacity to change. Oh he may pretend, but I know him enough to know what he is capable of and what he isn’t.
This is why I believe there is no place in Church leadership for narcissists and I know there are so many narcissistic pastors out there, all failing to understand they need to change and few people recognising this and just allowing and enabling them to continue and therefore, enabling Satan to use their narcissism so easily.
To me, Church leadership should be at least stage 4 in their spiritual progression, should have good mental health, be humble, be willing to take criticism, be willing to be challenged and understand they may actually learn more of God’s wisdom in the process. Church leadership is meant to be about Christ, not self.
There is no place for narcissism in Church leadership. I understand that with absolute clarity.
There is a lot of abuse occurring within Christianity and a lot of false teachers, ravenous wolves and this is increasing. And a lot of this is down to narcissism.
It is not showing grace to ignore a narcissists sins and abuse.
It is not love, to condone their narcissism.
It is not wisdom to not realise they are a narcissist, or assume they have changed.
And this is why narcissistic pastors continue on, with people assuming it is grace and forgiveness to just slap them on the wrists and have an expectation they have changed, or believe their lies.
I will never be a sheep and just do what is expected of me, just because other Christians say something is right, when I know it isn’t.
I will never be a sheep, who is guilted or shamed into accepting something I know is not right.
I will never be a sheep who will ignore the narcissistic actions/abuse of those in Church leadership, even if other Christians fail to understand, fail to act appropriately, fail to do what is right.
God didn’t make me a sheep and I know He is using me for His purposes.
I still feel a book on recovery from spiritual abuse entitled ‘Is he praying, or preying’, is an excellent title. Sadly though, I also see that it would take someone with insight into mental health and narcissism, to actually understand this.
And it would appear, this understanding of narcissism, is not common.
Just what Satan wants, of course.