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Went to a new Church today and it was so good, praise God!

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Having had to have a period of time to heal, from spiritual abuse and harm caused previously, going to a new Church was a new Chapter of our lives beginning.

So many things I noted as being so different to the last one.

The message included prayer for all Church’s in the area. That was new to hear that. I have never heard that before. What I am used to hearing, is bashing other Church’s and denominations, very spiritually immature I can so easily see now, and I always knew this.

The message was delivered with passion, but humility and with a little humour, but not in a ‘aren’t I funny’ way. He didn’t pause to hear the laughter. He didn’t need and wasn’t seeking that self serving response of anyone thinking ‘you are so funny’, which is what I am used to hearing and seeing.

This Church serves the wider community, and one lady stated, ‘we are a Church that serve outside of our Church, not just ourselves’. As Jesus did. That is not something I am used to seeing. This new Church understand the ‘wider community’ is not just about playgroup, soccer, youth group. They serve in far more community wide ways than those ministries alone.

This new Church support and build up leadership within the Church, they encourage leaders to help serve. What I am used to seeing is two leaders who think they are ‘it’. And everyone else is not of a standard as them, not able to lead like them.

This new Church have a ‘team’ for pastoral care – not just the leaders of the Church. They have welcoming group, who phone people, they have cards to fill out if you are new, or visiting, they check up on people, they show they care. I am not used to seeing any of that at all.

What I witnessed in this Church from many people, was more humility than I have seen in 4 years prior of witnessing religion, authority driven, lack of humility, inner circle, self serving, spiritually immaturely led, stage 3 Church ways.

What is interesting is when religious people need to say they are mature Christians. Or need to say they are humble. Giving themselves those labels, shows their spiritual immaturity.

The difference in the websites of these Church’s is interesting.

The old Church, states the leaders are ‘humble leaders’. Why do they need to label and call themselves ‘humble’…..the same reason as they call themselves ‘mature Christians’, because they are spiritually stuck, at stage 3 and don’t see true humility doesn’t require you label yourself ‘humble’ and if you are more spiritually progressed, you don’t need to label yourself ‘mature Christians’ as so many do, wrongly.

They also used the term ‘Godly’ to describe each other – well maybe they need to realise, as I do, that comparing yourself or any other person, to God, is not spiritually mature at all. No-one can be compared to God.

I am glad I have an ability to recognise these differences in Church’s, in leaders, in styles of messages, in the way people behave and whether they are self serving, or Christ serving.

So, I have praised and thanked God for His provision of a Church, where my children felt immediately at home, where I could see what I needed to see and feel and where I can take my children by myself to Church when my husband is working.

It felt SOOOO good to be back at a Church, hearing a message, singing in worship, I have truly missed singing in Church. Prayer and Bible study I have done at home, but Church is a very necessary part of life and I know that.

It went better than I anticipated, so I know that always comes from God.

Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

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