Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.

It’s a popular misconception, that everyone in a Church, is a Christian.


There is much to be said about salvation and whether you can lose it.

The bigger issue, is this is all dependent on whether you are actually a ‘Christian’ to begin with, and many people who stand in Church’s, are not.

Matthew 7:14
But small is the gate and narrow the road that leads to life, and only a few find it.

These ‘few’ people, are not all those standing in a Church, or all those claiming to be a teacher of God’s Word.

Matthew 7:15
Beware of false prophets, which come to you in sheep’s clothing, but inwardly they are ravening wolves.

The analogy ‘you are no more a Christian because you stand in a Church, than you are a car if you stand in a garage’, is a poor one, because a person can never become a car, but a person can become a Christian.

But, it is true that many who stand in Church’s and in leadership of Church’s, are not in Christ, but under the domain of Satan.

The way to know if someone is in Christ, is are they in obedience to God’s will?

Christians are not perfect, but their hearts will be to sin less.

Red flags I have seen are;

* Do they keep sinning in planned ways over periods of time, yes?
* Do they repent when their sins are exposed, no?
* Do they have genuine remorse for sins that have hurt another, no?
* Are their sins abusive, yes?
* Do they lie and attack the person a person who exposes them, yes?

These are examples of behaviours that show someone is not a Christian, but is under Satan’s domain

It bothers me that leaders promote this ‘you are saved, you can’t lose your salvation, even if you keep sinning’ message.

How do those leaders (if in fact they are leaders and are not false teachers) know whether anyone is saved?

How can any leader of a Church tell anyone whether they are saved. I don’t know if someone is saved, the only One that knows that, is Jesus.

I know beyond any doubt I am saved, I have a personal relationship with Jesus, who has revealed Himself to me in ways I know are real and beyond my understanding and have rendered me speechless in awe, but I have felt His presence, His arm around me, His presence during an EMDR session.

I have such amazing wise counsel provided by God, to help me understand everything and explain my confusion, as with the 6 stages of spiritual progression, which truly was a light bulb moment of realisation that I truly know came from Jesus, in response to my obedience to listen to the Holy Spirit and act in ways required by God, without even understanding why, but explained later.

It makes me have patience with those who are spiritually immature, but them being deceived bothers me too.

Nice, good people being deceived by those I know are not Christians, bothers me and I find it hard to let that go, mostly because many of these people are sinners and have failed me badly, but are not bad people, they are just deceived and spiritually immature and don’t challenge and think deeply.

To be concerned for these people and not want them deceived, is love, even if they don’t realise that.

Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

2 thoughts on “It’s a popular misconception, that everyone in a Church, is a Christian.

  1. one that a lot of people make, and one thing i have learned in my trauma experience is that the ones that go, I am a Christian and i d o this and i gave up this and i am this, is the biggest abuser of trust