The associate pastor I have formally complained about, is one that likes to tell others to repent, yet he can’t even tell the truth, let alone repent.
He told us once about a couple who contacted the Church, wanting to get married. They weren’t Church goers but just wanted to get married in Church. They had met whilst married to other people, ‘fell in love’, left their respective spouses, and then wanted to get married.
This pastor asked them if they had apologised to their former spouses for the adultery and the marriages breaking down and they stated no.
He told them, they would need to go to their former spouses and seek forgiveness first, before he would agree to marry them. They refused to do this, so he refused to marry them and they were upset and stated he was being judgemental.
I remember this ‘story’ well, because I could see the pride and the almost glee in how he could condescend to these people. He wasn’t sad for them, he was patronising in the way he spoke of it. He showed pride in his ability to ‘lord’ it over them.
It was one of those ‘red flags’ to me, and my brain remembers these red flag situations well and my hyper vigilance picks up on motives and behaviours that don’t fit someone’s image well. And I have picked up on so many in this pastor and his equally dishonest, image driven, fake wife.
So, this pastor, is one to tell non Christians, to go and apologise, seek forgiveness fro those they have wronged and yet, this is a man, who lies continually, spiritually abused me with grooming intent knowing I was very vulnerable, called me demonic for exposing him, has totally failed to even be remotely honest, let alone ask my forgiveness and hasn’t repented in the slightest.
This pastor is a total hypocrite. 100%. As narcissists are.