Often those who have endured abuse and stand up and speak out about it, are attacked, belittled, scorned and treated like they are the problem, not the abuser.
This was another very popular post on my community page, as it happens all the time.
It takes considerable courage, strength, integrity and honesty, to stand up to abusers, especially as the reaction is often not met with a supportive or positive reaction from others.
Assumptions will be made, from those who were not involved in the situation and claims made of the victim being unforgiving, or dramatic, or mistaken, or clouded by past life experiences.
The exposed abuser will work hard to ensure his/her identity as an abuser is not believed, casting doubt on the victim, with lies, manipulation and they will discredit the victim anyway they can.
Often the people around this abuser, will not want to believe this is possible, as it threatens their own lives, their own pride that they themselves did not see these abusive traits in this person.
Often for weak people, it is easier and more comfortable to live with lies, than to face the harsh truth and reality.
The victim is often unsupported, isolated and can sometimes even doubt themselves.
If this has happened to you, please know I do understand, and remain assured in what ‘you’ know is the truth, even if no-one else believes you and remember their experience of that person is the false one, not the real one, and often until they are exposed to the abusers real self, they will refuse to believe it.
I am glad, no matter how painful each time has been, when the real person has become revealed, because I would never want to be blinded by their lies indefinitely.
We can only heal what we can acknowledge, and knowing a person’s abusive real self and the abuse, is something we can heal from.
Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD 
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