Following spiritual abuse by a Church pastor, and all the lies he and his wife have told, I am aware many people at that Church, do not have the correct understanding of what happened and believe something that is not true.
We had to leave the Church, due to the complete failure of the senior pastor to support us and because the behaviour of many people changed as they polarised around this issue.
It was a classic case of someone shouting wolf to a Church, and being treated like the problem and it being made clear we were not welcome and I was not believed.
Now, these are ‘Christians’ who were not there when this abuse occurred and do not know who is truthful, so therefore, should not be taking sides and when a complaint of abuse is made, people should have stepped up and offered us support. But, no-one did.
Since this occurred, I have seen several people from this Church, who have all – in a very un-Christian manner – ignored me. Including today.
Considering I have endured abuse, been lied to, lied about, had many people fail to do what they should have, this is hurtful. I am human and I have feelings.
Even though I am completely secure in my understanding of what occurred, supported by my professional support – including in writing – I still am human and don’t want people to believe the lies told by these narc abusive people.
It is enough to have endured spiritual abuse with grooming, then been spiritually abuse more, and have to leave Church, lose my friends and support, grieve so many relationships and then I have to see people ignoring me, knowing they think things about me that are false and lies.
It’s bad enough that people I trusted hurt me so badly, but for them to lie and have other people think wrong things about me, is disgusting.
This is why it Biblically states that lies are an abomination to God. As will spiritual abuse be, especially with no remorse or repentance.
I also do know the fallout and consequences of spiritual abuse by Church leadership, is equipping me with the understanding and knowledge needed to help others who have been through this.
But, I also know I am allowed to feel hurt. So when I help others, I can empathise, with how hurtful this feels.