Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.

Final conclusion letter, of the formal complaint, arrived today.

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Well, the final outcome of the formal complaint made and all the hell myself and my family have been through this year, has been agreed.

Due to my courage to complain, this pastor will lose his licence ‘immediately’ if he fails even once, to adhere to code of conduct again within the next 5 years. This is a big statement to make to him. This outcome not being common in a case like mine, but showing the seriousness of what he did and how much evidence I had and how much he failed.

(Had he and his wife not lied, he would have lost his licence immediately. And he knows that, and so does God).

He has to have psychological counselling to see if he is suitable to continue, as a pastor, particularly in light of my complaint.

He has to report to ministerial services fortnightly, about everything he does within his role, for at least the next 6 months, should he continue.

He has to shut down his facebook account, due to highly inappropriate messages, and only have one with his wife, so she can keep an eye on him.

He has to write an essay on boundaries within pastoral care/counselling situations.

Not conduct any more counselling, until he has received appropriate training.

And they confirmed they couldn’t 100% conclude motive, due to all the denials and lack of 3rd party witness to his abusive actions while we were alone.

So, after 9 months of crap and being emotionally devastated to have been treated so badly by people I trusted and loved, I am very glad it is now all over!

God required this wolf/false teacher, be exposed by someone courageous enough to go through with a formal complaint and also deal with the highly ungodly actions of the Church also, who all failed miserably in acting as Jesus would.

I am just so glad that I have reduced the chance of this happening to anyone else, as I wouldn’t want anyone to have endured what I have.

Narcissists hate being exposed and I doubt he will risk it again. Hopefully this has been enough to keep his wandering eyes, mind and hands, to himself.

Spiritual abuse, is evil.

Lies are evil.

Division in God’s Church with lies, are evil.

Lack of repentance, is not taken lightly by God.

The Baptist Ministerial Services stated they pray I continue to ‘recover’ from the events that led to this formal complaint.

I guess that’s the closest they can get to an apology without fear I will take this matter to a lawyer, which I would not do.

Interesting how Christians are meant to show remorse, apologise and yet no-one has done that.

But, not everyone who goes to Church, or leads a Church, are Christians and many are so deceived, and they don’t even know it.

Which genuinely saddens me.

Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

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