Have just seen a quote pic, I would much rather not have seen.
I hate triggers. I wish my PTSD, would go away.
But, it doesn’t go away. It’s still there.
I love humour, of all kinds and I can have can have a sarcastic sense of humour – and I find sarcasm funny – in the right context, with the right people.
But, I also see sarcasm, used by people with very negative personality traits – to actually put people down and elevate themselves.
I know one such person, who has a childish, sarcastic personality. He also has very high level narcissistic traits, and is an abuser – unable to admit it, a liar and a wolf in sheep’s clothing.
One of the big reasons why he is a narc, is because his emotional development is stuck, in young childhood. He is very immature, still laughing at toilet humour – like my 11 yr old son does and even his wife has to ‘mother’ him about this – her being the controlling narc type, who likes to think she is ‘above’ her husband.
This man’s type of humour – led to a quote/pic – that became one that I always thought of in regard to him, and I have just seen it now. And he encouraged that – as like one of our ‘little in jokes’. Part of the grooming crap.
Makes me want to vomit now, thinking about it.
The quote is….
‘Don’t take yourself so seriously, if you can’t laugh at yourself, call me and I’ll laugh at you’.
Another quote he likes is…
‘Sarcasm, is one of the services I offer’.
He loves to laugh at people. As narcs do. Only he does it in his charming, silly way – that fools everyone. More ‘centre of attention, I need everyone to love me’ issues of his.
I also don’t use sarcasm, until I know someone really well. And I am not childish.
But, I do wonder about sarcasm, and whether it is for many, just a covert, acceptable way to say something a little mean and get away with it.
It is definitely a negative personality trait, if used often, and I do see that.
It can be very clever, but very negative. And can hurt people.
I also tend to test people – not in planned way – I do it automatically. To see how they will react – I’m someone who is constantly trying to work people out.
So, for me, it is often about that, rather than trying to put people down, although when people feel put down – is when you often see them react in a more ‘real’ way.
Which also reminds me, thinking about this narc’s humour of something.
At this church, we watched a Christian Comedian Ken Davis – who is a very funny man, on DVD. This man makes his living by his humour.
I laughed all the way through it, I love humour. I can be funny, but in no way am I a comedian – but I truly appreciate those who are. And many others were laughing a lot too, through this DVD.
At the end, I said to this narc – Ken Davis is SO funny, he’s way funnier than you.’
To which this narcs face dropped and he said in a defensive voice – totally seriously – no he isn’t – I’m funnier than him’.
And I remember thinking – wow!
How deluded is he, if he thinks he is funnier than Ken Davis – which he isn’t.
This narc was not happy at all, that I considered someone else, funnier.
I also got the feeling, he was jealous that this DVD created more laughter – than he gets when cracking his ‘jokes’ up on the ‘stage’ when he ‘preaches’.
More evidence of his insecurity, lack of self insight and narcissism.
So, I am thinking a lot about sarcasm, and whether this is something I need to stop.
Or whether it is okay, in healthy doses, with the right people.