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Sheldon Coopers character (The Big Bang Theory), isn’t funny, he’s sad.


I think it is a true representation of society, that the Big Bang Theory is so popular – as it suits our increasingly narcissistic society that wants to say bad, harmful behaviour is okay.

Sheldon Cooper’s character is narcissistic, socially awkward, childish, hurtful, naive, irascible, selfish, rude, and irrepressible.

He believes he is superior to everyone, even Stephen Hawkins, has no respect for anyone, constantly thinks of himself, is willing to hurt others and do highly inappropriate behaviours he feels completely entitled to do – like hack into people’s computers, for his own selfish needs.

This TV show is very funny – I see that. It does make me laugh. The writing is clever, the acting is excellent. I have a well developed sense of humour, and I do see the humour.

BUT, the deeper issues of this program, are the continuing ‘normalising’ of bad, selfish, entitled, hurtful behaviour.

Which is not okay and a true reflection of where our increasing unhealthy society is heading.

Childish, immature adult men love Sheldon Cooper, wear batman tee-shirts like he does, embrace his immature behaviours, think comics and being obsessed with fictional characters is okay for adults – when it isn’t.

These behaviours of adult men, are highly immature and I have seen this myself. Men copying their idols ‘Bazinger’ catch phrase, like a child worships a hero like figure.

Sheldon Cooper’s character is a mixture of OCD, Machiavellian, Aspergers and Narcissism. He has all these traits clearly and whilst some may feel this is okay, some of these, are actually is very poor mental health that cause harm to others.

Sheldon Cooper’s character may be intellectually a genius, but in fact he is so ‘intellectual, he is stupid, immature, has no emotional intelligence at all, and is not someone I would want my boys to be viewing as a role model, in any way at all.

The fact that this encourages ‘grown men’ to be childish geeks and there are tee-shirts sold with ‘Bazinger’ on them, pictures of Sheldon, and childhood fictional superhero characters on them, is truly quite sad and quite frankly – pathetic.

The Big Bang Theory, is a smorgasbord for anyone who knows about psychology and diagnostic criterion for mental health disorders, particularly personality disorders.

Every character has mental health issues, most have issues with their parents and whilst there is nothing shameful in that, the fact that it is made comedy and cleverly disguised as okay and funny and something to believe is good – because these characters are intellectually/academically clever, is actually harmful to society.

Society is increasingly heading down a narcissistic path and increasingly has less emotional intelligence, increasing entitlement to do what you want – regardless of the cost to others or society. Steve Jobs being an excellent true life example.

Society embraces ‘selfies’ photos, saying people are ‘special’, condoning the ‘all about me’ attitude that people with those narcissistic immature traits to begin with – take full advantage of.

The Big Bang Theory, may be very funny, very cleverly written, but it is sadly a very telling example of the unhealthy path society is heading down. Along with the increasing amounts of reality TV, celebrity worship, all being a massive reflection of society’s increasing need for selfish, entitled, narcissism.

And so many people, don’t realise this. Due to their ignorance, non education in mental health, non understanding of unhealthy society beliefs and also – most concerning- because selfishness, mean, rude, lack of empathy, narcissism and other issues – is actually appealing and very seductive to so many.

Which is even worse.

And to know many expert psychologists and people I know to very wise, agree with this, validates my understanding of this.

Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

5 thoughts on “Sheldon Coopers character (The Big Bang Theory), isn’t funny, he’s sad.

  1. “Friends”, a very popular show, had a blonde twit. Stupid blondes has been the butt of jokes for years. It doesn’t mean blondes are actually stupid. No one said the show exploited blondes or encouraged people to make fun of them. Certainly no one was worried about girls wanting to be like her or be the ones that made fun of blondes like her.

    I think the problem is seeing a ‘deeper issue’ in a comedy. It’s funny – you admitted that – and it’s entertaining. There is no ‘deeper issue’. It’s a show.

    • Oh there is a deeper issue, as with a lot of TV now. This is an increasingly narcissistic society we live in, where entitlement and doing wrong and that being condoned, is encouraged.
      Reality TV is another perfect example.
      I expect people to not see the deeper meaning of this issue, and resent being told that a show they like, is fine and can cause no harm.
      It is something I have discussed with wise people – trained in psychology, who indeed also see the deeper issues.
      Just because it is funny and entertainment – does not make it okay.
      It ‘normalises’ wrong behaviour.
      I’m sorry you are unable to see that.
      Read up about narcissism, a great book is ‘The Narcissism Epidemic – Living In The Age Of Entitlement’ – written by experts.
      If you read that – it will open up your mind and understanding.

      • I’m more aware of narcissism than you might think. I still see it as just a show, but I can understand where you are coming from.

  2. Sheldon Cooper seems to be more of a cerebral narcissist with OCD. Many people think he is on the spectrum (of autism), and it’s possible because he does have the honesty and sometimes almost naive generosity that isn’t characteristic of narcissists, but of those with Asperger’s Syndrome. The reason that Sheldon gets along with Leonard’s mother so well is because she, too, is a cerebral narcissist (Leonard is the black sheep while her other son and daughter are the golden children, and she and Leonard’s father only had sex for procreative purposes).

    I agree the show is humorous. I also agree that it makes light of some serious issues such as those supporting characters that appear on occasion who are rather psychopathic, especially those in the medical profession. They’re a reality in the medical fields as well as top tier/Ivy league university faculty, not to mention CEOs, university governance, and wealthy donors to universities.

    I’m guessing…from the vernacular used in this blog…that the author is from the UK? BBT is, however, shown all over the world including non-English speaking countries. Perhaps that is the reason for the difference in pronunciation and spelling of the word “bazinga” and “bazinger.” In the US, Sheldon says Bazinga and the t-shirts sold have the same word “bazinga!” emblazoned on them. It’s interesting that in the UK they say “banzinger!”

  3. I no longer like the show, I find it extremely annoying especially the Sheldon Cooper character.