Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.

Don’t consider for a second, you have the right to lecture me, patronize me…


I am so sick of people telling me how I should feel and what I should think.

I’ve looked after myself all my life and considering all I have been through, I’ve done okay.

It’s so easy for people who haven’t walked my life, to tell me I am being irrational, I’m not thinking clearly blah blah blah…

I’ve kept myself alive through severe abuse, that should have killed me….on my own.

I’ve survived severe child abuse from birth.

I’ve survived a sadistic psychopath, who killed a previous girlfriend and I suffered terror & torture from him for several years and got out alive.

I think I have a pretty good track record of looking after myself, so why does anyone who hasn’t lived my life, think they have the right to tell me how I should think and what I should do.

I’d like to see any of these people, live my life and see if they got through it all as well as I have. Many wouldn’t, because my life has been horrific at time, for prolonged periods of time.

I am far from perfect, but I know that, I know my issues, I know my mind and how it thinks and why I think the way I do, which is more than most ‘normal’ people do. Most have no clue of their issues, but I can see them.

I help people, as much as I can, in whatever capacity I can – and NOT because I get paid for it – I do it because I know how hard this is and I want to help people who are suffering. It may just be a drop in the ocean, but it’s something and I do it with a good heart, because I have had so many times in my life where I had no-one and no internet etc.

It amazes me really, that anyone can feel they can tell me what to do and what to feel.

All I need is people to just be there for me.

I don’t need any fucking lectures, or being patronised, or being treated like some moron. Excuse the language, but I am really annoyed.

This world is full of people, who want to voice their opinion, their view on your life and how you are doing it wrong.

When they’ve lived my life, then they have earned the right the tell me how I should think and how I should live.

If I fall apart because life gets too hard, then is that so bad, after all I’ve been through?

If anyone thinks it isn’t okay, then they have no clue what suffering and a life like mine is like.

Until they do, their opinion, is really, irrelevant.

Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

3 thoughts on “Don’t consider for a second, you have the right to lecture me, patronize me…

  1. Wow, there are some nasty trolls on here. You write on your own blog, to vent your feelings, and people come and attack you, call you names – knowing you were suicidal last night.

    What a deeply mean heart of anyone who would do that to someone. Bullying suicidal people on the internet, what black hearts.

    I would NEVER go to someone’s blog, who has severe PTSD and make someone suicidal feel worse.

    Talk about lack of empathy, and black souls.

    Good thing you can delete comments and un-authorize them.

  2. “relapseintodarkness” Whoever you are, we feel for you but get help elsewhere. Your presence on here is no longer wanted. Just stop coming onto this blog site and we will let it go at that. Otherwise, we will have to take further steps to file a complaint and have you forcibly shut down.