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Empathic People Are Natural Targets For Sociopaths & Empath – Sociopath – Apath Triad

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Wow, this was information I already knew, but seeing it written out this way, is like reading about me.

Me = the Empath

Several of my abusers = the Sociopaths

Those who colluded, did nothing, don’t care = Apaths.

And it states clearly that the people who are not empaths — 60% of the population, who prefer easy lives – see empaths in PROBLEMATIC TERMS.

This is MY LIFE – people with no empathy – seeing me as the problem because they prefer EASY LIVES. I have been saying this for the last year – I see it ALL the time.

And how empaths withdraw from society because of all of this.

And there was me, thinking I am crazy, and I am not. It’s most other people with no empathy that DON’T GET IT – because their emotional intelligence is far lower. But, its EASIER for them, to label me crazy.

These extracts are from the link at the end of this blog post.

This part was interesting…

“There is the less-visible burden of sociopath-induced emotional trauma which, if left unchecked, can lead to anxiety disorders, depression and post-traumatic stress disorder.

Chronically traumatized people often exhibit hyper-vigilant, anxious and agitated behavior, symptoms such as tension headaches, gastrointestinal disturbances, abdominal pain, back pain, tremors and nausea.

Exposure to and interaction with a sociopath in childhood can leave lifelong scars. This can apply to people in therapy – and for those who in recovery trained as therapists, re-exposure as an adult can trigger old emotions and PTSD.”

And…

(This is me now – distressed by the apathy around me to care about children and women’s protection).

“The empath. Often, the person targeted by the sociopath is an empath. Empaths are ordinary people who are highly perceptive and insightful and belong to the 40% of human beings who sense when something’s not right, who respond to their gut instinct. In The Emperor’s New Clothes, the empath is the boy who mentions the unmentionable: that there are no clothes.

In the 1990s, researchers suggested that there was a positive relationship between empathy and emotional intelligence. Since then, that term has been used interchangeably with emotional literacy.

What this means in practice is that empaths have the ability to understand their own emotions, to listen to other people and empathise with their emotions, to express emotions productively and to handle their emotions in such a way as to improve their personal power.

People are often attracted to empaths because of their compassionate nature. A particular attribute is that they are sensitive to the emotional distress of others. Conversely, they have trouble comprehending a closed mind and lack of compassion in others.

Very highly empathic people can find themselves helping others at the expense of their own needs, which can lead them to withdraw from the world at times.

It is odd. Most of us enjoy watching films and reading books about heroes who refuse to go along with the crowd, which suggests there is something admirable about people who make a bold stand.

But in real life, watching someone raise their head above the parapet often makes the rest of us feel queasy. Most – the 60% majority – prefer the easy life. It was interesting to discover, when doing the research for this book, how often people see empaths in problematical terms.

Empaths use their ability to emphasize and to boost theirs and others’ well being and safety. Problems arise for empaths, however, when there are apaths in the vicinity. Empaths can be brought down, distressed and forced into the position of the lone fighter by the inaction of more apathetic types round them.”

http://www.sott.net/article/268449-Empathic-people-are-natural-targets-for-sociopaths-protect-yourself

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Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

6 thoughts on “Empathic People Are Natural Targets For Sociopaths & Empath – Sociopath – Apath Triad

  1. I have been trying to understand how my ex-husband’s office manager who witnessed my ex’s abuse of me, could now be helping him fight me in court. I used to think she had a big heart. He has been buying her and her friend expensive dinners and paying her a full time salary for part time work for sometime now. All the while ignoring his bad behavior. HIs affair with a married woman that is a sales rep that frequented our office. She was the one that helped figure out who the woman was after he confessed to our friends. Yet now, she states she can believe that he started the affair before we split up. Yet, she if aware of the time the woman spent waiting for him to finish work and some how that fact the she was married (still is) that it is somehow was not an affair, just two people in love (so what if they were both married).
    She also knows how hard I worked and worked for almost no pay at all. Yet, I am taking advantage of him. He is the victim? He even told her once that since I was gone he was going to take his frustrations out on her.
    I endured years of verbal, emotional and at the end phyiscal abuse as well. I have hundreds of emails, threatening me, putting me down, etc. from this narcissist. I have done a lot of healing, but for someone who witnessed some of this abuse ( I hid so much out of pain and humilitation) it drives me nuts. How can a woman that had an abuse marriage herself, help an abuser continue to abuse his victim?

    Please hide my name. I am still under attack from this man.

  2. I love this post and you other posts about empaths. I do not notice, however, in my personal interactions, that 40 percent of people are empaths. From my interactions with people, the number of emoaths is much lower. But maybe it is just who I happen to be surrounded by
    But even when I lived different places. I only seem to notice about 5 percent or maybe 10 percent of people to be highly empathic.
    That is why we are considered to be flaky, spacy, too sensitive, too highly emotional, whatever…

    • I agree, that empaths, , are not common and in fact are rare. People can have varying degrees of empathy capacity, but empaths have a range of skills, that are far more than the capacity for empathy.
      I know I am an empath, and few will understand what an empath is, because mostly people don’t understand what they haven’t personally experienced.
      ❤ ❤

      • I think you are right about the varying degrees of empathy. It must be on a spectrum.
        Highly sensitive empaths like you and I, are probably 1 or 2 percent.
        It makes it important for us to connect with each other. 🌷🌹🌺🌸

      • Yes, and it’s important to connect, because so many people don’t understand empaths, or even levels of empathy, because most people only understand what they personally experience.
        Sadly, a lot of people who don’t understand, also then make empathy a negative, and name calling happens – like ‘oversensitive’ etc.
        So, it is good to connect with people who ‘get it’.