It does cause pain. It really hurts.
Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD
I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario
February 25, 2014 at 5:38 am
I really appreciated this one. Just 10 days ago I wrote a letter to the institution that harbored and protected my abuser explaining to them how when they do not respond to us, his victims–when our emails go unanswered or our questions get ignored–it is re-victimizing us. It triggers us and it wounds us deeply.
Not surprisingly, even after having it spelled out for them, they STILL did not even bother to write a simple “hey, we got your email and we’ll get back to you” email. Just 10 days of silence. Ignoring is a huge trigger for those who were abused. Thank you for helping share this important and crucial message that so many (so many!) miss.
January 19, 2015 at 8:20 pm
I don’t just get ignored. My children do too and like below, the abuser harboured and supported.
It’s even been suggested that my factual reports based on love, concern and duty of care to my kids are the REASON for the continued abuse.
One year I’ve been ignored and had to watch damaged and morally confused children come and go whilst being ignored. But now they’re not allowed to come at all after one malicious allegation and are trapped with their abusers, terrified of talking to anyone about their situation in case it leads to loss of privileges/something worse.
Yes, I’m a father.