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Polar opposites of how Christianity views murderers, paedophiles, sex offenders, abuse….

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I see quite clearly how there are polarising views within society, and within Christianity.

It’s interesting how humans tend to over-react and have extreme behaviours, ways to tackling issues and views.

You see these, with the hard line, right wing, often abusive Christians, and then the opposite left wing impotent ‘anything goes’ Christians. Neither of which, is of God.

Some Christians, believe in the death penalty and believe that is Biblical and of God. They believe convicted murderers, paedophiles should not be languishing in prison, at our expense, and they should receive the death penalty. I have spoken with Christians, who believe in this.

I disagree with this and don’t see any grace or mercy in this and I do not believe anyone, should not have the remainder of their natural life, to have repentance, which should not be about ‘getting out of prison’, it should be about the ‘real’ reason for repentance. I believe they should remain in prison. If they are let out of prison, then they should be able to live their lives, but in a constricted manner, not be allowed where there are children present, including libraries, church’s, parks etc, but live without harassment, I don’t agree with vigilante groups etc.

Some Christians, believe in the opposite of this and they should be given free reign to live normally, once they have ‘repented’, including paedophiles being allowed in Church’s, with the onus on people to ensure adequate supervision. Twisted, compassion and grace gone too far the other way, resulting in allowing further abuse to occur and offenders ‘getting away with it’.

I disagree with this also. This is too far the other way. It ‘will’ result in further abuse and Church is meant to be a safe place for all, and yes we are all sinners, but the safety and priority of vulnerable people, and children, comes before the rights of sex offender and paedophiles who already made their ‘choices’ to abuse, especially in light of the knowledge that they cannot be rehabilitated. It is a severe sickness they continue to have and they mostly re-offend.

Christianity, overall, does a shocking job of dealing with abuse and I know this for many reasons.

And it is not just abuse that occurred in the 60’s and 70’s – it is very well known and being voiced/exposed by some – that abuse still occurs just as much – sexual abuse to children, physical abuse to children, spiritual abuse, and grooming to children and adults.

The reasons, many.

I was discussing today, that many Christians already grow in an environment where abuse is condoned. Children are physical abused, belts, shoes, paddles, canes taken to children and teenagers. Absolutely abuse.

Women are often abused – emotionally, mentally, spiritually, domestic violence, women suppressed, treated as 2nd class, not considered worthy of ‘speaking’ in Church’s, abusing certain Bibles verses to elevate men’s ego’s/authority and keep women in the kitchen and bedroom. Women are shamed into not leaving their abusive husbands, and told they are sinning if they won’t tolerate their husband’s abusive ‘authority’ over them.

And I know this all goes on, because I have seen it all.

So, when Christians grow within abusive environments, it’s as though they don’t develop the capacity to understand right from wrong, cannot distinguish ‘abuse’, from what is appropriate.

So, they allow far more abuse to continue, than should ever continue. And that’s why they continue to allow it do go on down through generations.

It’s why narcissism, abuse and apathy, are common within Christianity. And is increasing within Christianity as much as it is outside of Christianity.

They use ‘cheap grace’ to justify this abuse. To justify not caring about victims, ministers use it to control the flock of sheep, to their own advantage. To justify not having to deal with abuse appropriately and not stopping it, their own twisted understanding of what is ‘abuse’, plus their apathy, plus their ‘reputation’ being paramount. Plus some condone it, because they are abusers themselves.

It is really quite shocking for me, as a Christian, to see so many Christians, mess up so badly and abuse, in the name of God.

Of which, not prioritising safety of vulnerable people, is premeditated negligence/abuse. It is deliberate endangerment of vulnerable people.

Of which, enabling and ignoring abuse of any kind, is abuse.

Of which, ignoring and condoning physical abuse and domestic violence within Christian homes, is abuse.

Of which, not sacking abusers, and not involving police, is abuse.

Of which, using ‘cheap grace’ is abuse.

Of which, shaming victims to forgive abusers quickly and imposing time frames, keeping quiet and forcing unwanted reconciliation, is abuse.

Of which, believing in the death penalty, is abuse.

Christianity needs to find the middle, wise ground, and it fails to do so, over and over.

Wisdom, not featuring in any of this.

Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

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