Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.

I understand those suffering, who have real empathy, often want to help others the most.



It is reported that Charlotte Dawson, reached out to someone struggling with depression, just two weeks before she took her own life. This doesn’t surprise me, her empathy is obvious in many things she did. Many who knew her, said she was always helping people, always supporting people, always ready to give anything to help others.

Knowing suffering, and trauma, abuse, depression – can make you have great empathy for others and truly and deeply want not one to suffer and to not suffer alone. Empathy and an understanding of the pain, can be the greatest support and validation another person can receive.

I know when my healing community page was up and running for over a year, the posts I would write, were so raw and real, that other survivors related to them deeply, related to the honesty, related to the expression of the emotions, fears, the journey and provided a greater depth of understanding, than mental health professionals will have, if they have no personal experience of suffering.

There is greater validation, from someone who personal understands. No-one can understand the depths of being suicidal, of deep and prolonged fear, the darkness of deep shame, unless they have endured it.

It has always been a need for me – to help others. And I know I already have and I hope I will in the future.

True empathy and compassion, often can only come from those who really understand it fully.

Which is why no-one should make judgments about depression, suicide, severe abuse, mental health disorders, and it irritates me when people do. How can they? If they haven’t experienced it? But they do. Which makes it so much harder for those struggling.

It is a huge exhausting struggle to get through each day, and still deal with all the issues normal life throws at us all. Support often isn’t available. Many people will avoid, disappear when they hear anything about mental health and suicide.

I know total aloneness, having no support whilst suffering, and how hopeless it can make life seem.

No-one deserves to be alone, while they struggle with all this pain and suffering.

Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

6 thoughts on “I understand those suffering, who have real empathy, often want to help others the most.

  1. I loved this and reposted part on my Facebook page Beautiful and Broken. I’m so glad to have found you here. I love you and I care! ~Karla

    • Hey sweetie! How are you going?

      I’m thankful you found me here too. Hope you are doing okay, and you know understand if you are not. We are not alone.

      Lots of love and hugs to you xxx

      • I’m so happy to be able to talk to you, I’m not doing well, very depressed and having suicidal thoughts which I haven’t acted on but they are still there, it’s so hard to talk about this with anyone, most of my so called friends ignore me, think I’m just looking for attention the times I have tried to reach out and cry for help. Doctors I was seeing have lost my trust since they treat me like a thing not a person. They are very distant and many times cruel, unsupportive and harsh. I went to another new Dr. and he wants me to go inpatient to a hospital but I’m scared because I’ve never been inpatient only outpatient treatments and I’ve head a lot of scary and bad stuff from those places. Right now I’m always isolating, very bad insomnia and anxiety all the time. Can barely leave my house. Usually just in my room and will go get food, but I feel so messed up. I’m not taking care of myself and I have no energy plus everything hurts (my whole body all the time) I cry all the time too. I was wondering if you being an empath too would recommend me going to this hospital? They said they can’t say how long I’ll be in there but my fear is that even though I’m fragile right now that I get worse and triggers from people in there. 😦 I’m sorry to bother you but really need some advice. Thank you in advance, love and many hugs! xoxoxo

        P.S. I can relate so much to what you posted and how you have been feeling lately too. Although I’m not a mom. My grandma takes care of me because I’m so bad I can’t myself she’s all I have but I don’t get emotional support from her because she has no idea what I’m going through.

  2. Beautiful & Broken Angel, I am so sorry you are really struggling. I have been too lately and I know how debilitating it is. (((((((hugs)))))))) and much love to you and you are in my prayers ❤

    Inpatient treatment, is different at different hospitals, so I don't know if the one you could go to, is okay. But, from what you have said, and with the doctors advice, my advice would be to seriously consider it. Inpatients treatment, can be a positive break from having to do life for a little while.

    They hopefully would have trained people to talk to there who understand how hard this is, who may be able to help with coping and management skills and help with medication. And you really need and deserve some help and people who understand. They may even have group therapy they can recommend, or some after care services, which would help too.

    I understand how painful it is to have friends ignore and reject you and not have any understanding of how desperately hard this is, I have been dealing with this too. When you feel this low, it feels so deeply hurtful, I know. Please know, even though we are in different countries, I understand your pain and I know how deeply hard and exhausting this is.

    I have decided to keep a gratitude journal, so I can be thankful for what I do have that is good. I don't know if it will help me, but I'm going to give it go.

    Keeping praying beautiful, and know God won't abandon us, He won't fail us, even if everyone else does.

    Let me know how you are doing. You are welcome here, any time.

    Much love beautiful girl xoxoxoxox

  3. I know this post is over a year old, but I was led to it today when I needed this message–from the Angels, I believe. I am a highly sensitive person, thus an empath by herdity and by abuse. I have more faith in Angels than I do in people. You wrote this on my birthday last year (2.26.14). An Angel led me to this post. I’m working on healing from childhood abuse and then decades of abuse from wrong relationships–work, men, family, United States “medical professionals”. I am very very down today. I want the pain to stop.

    Thank you, Lilly, you provided some much needed salve for my wounds.