It is reported that Charlotte Dawson, reached out to someone struggling with depression, just two weeks before she took her own life. This doesn’t surprise me, her empathy is obvious in many things she did. Many who knew her, said she was always helping people, always supporting people, always ready to give anything to help others.
Knowing suffering, and trauma, abuse, depression – can make you have great empathy for others and truly and deeply want not one to suffer and to not suffer alone. Empathy and an understanding of the pain, can be the greatest support and validation another person can receive.
I know when my healing community page was up and running for over a year, the posts I would write, were so raw and real, that other survivors related to them deeply, related to the honesty, related to the expression of the emotions, fears, the journey and provided a greater depth of understanding, than mental health professionals will have, if they have no personal experience of suffering.
There is greater validation, from someone who personal understands. No-one can understand the depths of being suicidal, of deep and prolonged fear, the darkness of deep shame, unless they have endured it.
It has always been a need for me – to help others. And I know I already have and I hope I will in the future.
True empathy and compassion, often can only come from those who really understand it fully.
Which is why no-one should make judgments about depression, suicide, severe abuse, mental health disorders, and it irritates me when people do. How can they? If they haven’t experienced it? But they do. Which makes it so much harder for those struggling.
It is a huge exhausting struggle to get through each day, and still deal with all the issues normal life throws at us all. Support often isn’t available. Many people will avoid, disappear when they hear anything about mental health and suicide.
I know total aloneness, having no support whilst suffering, and how hopeless it can make life seem.
No-one deserves to be alone, while they struggle with all this pain and suffering.