Society, re-traumatizes people suffering from complex trauma, by demanding they heal fast.
Society where I live in a developed country – demands everything to be fast, rushed, immediate.
It is seen as weakness, if you take your time at anything, in a society of fast paced life, that is based upon success.
Doing things quickly, multi-tasking, all seen to be signs of strength.
This includes healing – from everything – relationship breakdown, grief, abuse, forgiveness etc.
Society tells you to move on, get over it, don’t look back, focus on the positive, chin up, don’t dwell, don’t have emotions.
Having intense emotions and grieving seems to be something society cannot tolerate or handle anymore. It allows you a certain time period and then any longer and you are criticised for dwelling, not being strong, attention seeking, deliberate refusal to move forward.
Society is cruel. It expects little emotions, and a fast paced healing and grieving process, in the same way everything else is deemed to be strength, when it is fast. Continue reading