Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.

How abusive people – view abuse. Apaths, Egocentrics, Narcissists, Sociopaths, Psychopaths. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario


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Apaths – I can’t be bothered to be concerned about abuse. Who cares. Boring. I know people who say they are being abused. I ignore it. Not my problem, is it? And I like that person they said was an abuser.

Egocentrics – Abuse doesn’t affect me, so why should I care? They should deal with their own problems behind closed doors and not bother others. Now can we get back to my problems.

Narcissists – I think it’s fine to use people, treat people badly, then lie, deny, project, if you need to. That’s life. Everyone does it. Don’t criticise me, or I will have a tantrum and deny it all. And if all else fails, I’ll act the victim, whilst starting a vindictive smear campaign.

Sociopaths – I do plan exploiting and hurting others, because I think it’s funny to watch people get upset. It’s not my problem they are weak. And I’ll do it again. It’s fun and I enjoy it. You don’t agree, I don’t care. And if pushed into a corner, I too may act the victim.

Psychopaths – I hurt others because they are there to be used and abused and I feel nothing about how they feel. I will do what I want to get what I want, abuse who I want, hurt them as much as I want and no-one will ever stop me. Don’t even try, or you will be next.

How do I know this is how they think?

Because I have been abused by them all.

And as a result of decades of abuse by all these highly abusive people, I have a lot of insight into the way their minds work.

Commonalities within each of these – are a complete lack of empathy, conscience, remorse, guilt, shame, or regard for human suffering. And a complete sense of entitlement and deep selfishness.

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Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

13 thoughts on “How abusive people – view abuse. Apaths, Egocentrics, Narcissists, Sociopaths, Psychopaths. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

  1. Some guy from Australia totally ripped off your post…

  2. Spot on. Trust in your own judgment and keep them all out of your life. I have seen an “unsuccessful” psychopath at work become less prominent since I exposed him for what he is. It’s interesting. He looks at me sometimes with anger behind the beard he grew other times he looks as if he has had his toy taken off him. Nice when they cannot react cos they are being watched probably boiling with rage.

  3. You seem to have described my family.

    • I’m so sorry this is your family. No-one deserves to have abusive family ❤

      Most of my personal experience and understanding of these all of highly abusive people, came from the first 20 years of my life.

      I am glad I can educate people about them and help validate those who have suffered them.

  4. Reblogged this on I Sing the Body Electric and commented:
    The different guises of abusers and how they think. I used to know these kinds of people, they were my family-but I took much personal satisfaction from removing them from my life. Quite how they viewed it I don’t know, as I never stopped to ask. They weren’t worth a minute more of my time. Leaving these people behind is the best decision I ever made 💪💪💪