At counselling with my doctor today, we were discussing the hurt and pain I feel seeing all the suffering in the world, like asylum seekers being treated badly and children having their parents taken off them, like knowing about the street children in Nepal and how badly abused they are and starving, and feeling a little of their pain.
Knowing millions of people are starving, recognising that I don’t know their level of suffering and how I desperately do not want that for them, which is all about deep empathy.
I said that Christianity doesn’t like to talk about empaths, however Jesus was an empath. My doctor agreed and said the difference is He had boundaries. And I know boundaries – is one of my weaknesses.
I also know I deal with the hurt and pain I feel for all these people suffering – by feeling angry at the people responsible – mostly being all the apaths.
How can they NOT care??????
Well, they just don’t. They are like teenagers, stuck in that teenage egocentric level of emotional intelligence and lack of empathy – and this just did not develop for them. Their lives are still ‘all about them’.
Suffering does in fact grow depth of wisdom and empathy, that cannot be developed in ease and comfort.
And with Christians – this goes along wit their stage 3 adolescent stage of faith, which most never get past too – where all they see is their lives, their own family and the church and the rules and regulations of being a Christian. And that’s it. Just like teenagers in school.
God doesn’t cause and allow suffering – PEOPLE allow suffering. Mostly by ignoring it.
And the biggest way the world allows suffering – is apathy. Which my doctor agreed with also. And I see this apathy very clearly and it makes me angry. Especially when it is Christian apathy – that I see clearly too.
It is not, however, my responsibility to change the world. I absolutely know that. And I need to learn boundaries so that this doesn’t consume me, as it is now.