Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.

Proof that children can thrive & learn respect & healthy behaviour WITHOUT physical discipline.


As a women who was abused by her parents and family – I am very aware of the affect that parenting can have on a child.

Having PTSD, means parenting is harder, as children’s noise and busyness and constant attention needs, are huge stressors to the PTSD mind.

I worry a lot about this. I get really upset sometimes worrying that I am not a good enough mother.

I do NOT agree with physical discipline to children and I believe it to be CHILD ABUSE, including spanking and neuroscience is now showing that spanking affects a child’s growing brain development.

I definitely believe that hitting a child/teenager with a belt, paddle, slipper etc is CHILD ABUSE and this has been confirmed by a highly regarded Christian doctor/counsellor.


My 2 boys have both had their school reports within the last few weeks and they are really good – with the behaviour and effort part and comments about them, being really good.

I don’t focus on just the achievement, because whilst that is relatively important, it is the effort and behaviour that is about their heart and soul. I would rather see a C for achievement and an A or B for effort – which means they have tried hard. Than see a C for achievement and a C for effort. Which means they could have tried harder and got a B or A for achievement.

Both my boys got nearly all B’s and a few A’s for effort and behaviour and mostly C’s and B’s for achievement, with a few A’s. So they are obviously functioning and thriving in school.

My eldest son’s report was the best he has ever had and it’s his first term in high school.

If my boys were affected by my PTSD, or I had poor parenting, their schooling would probably be affected. So my eldest having an improved report means he is doing well and increasing in is abilities.

I am really proud of my boys efforts and behaviour and this means a lot to me, that they have this capacity.

Shows my husband and I cannot be doing a bad job, although perfect parents we are not.

Also shows you DO NOT need to have physical discipline for your children to thrive and do well in life.

Children CAN be well adjusted respectful growing children – WITHOUT CHILD ABUSE from physical discipline.

Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

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