Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

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I find watching celebrities, wear less and less sad. Like Beyonce.


I used to really like Beyoncé, and her music video’s. They were about being a strong woman, but she had morals, and integrity to modesty.

But, over time, this has reduced and now she is regularly semi-naked and sexually gyrating in video’s.

I see headlines, as I am searching online news, and saw this one today “Beyoncé poses topless”.

Now, I have been no prude in my life. My lifestyle in the past has been nothing to be proud of. Wearing next to nothing and clubbing, one night stands ‘girls gone wild’ style – were my part of my life. But, now I wish that had had a different lifestyle. I had no self worth and assumed this was about having self esteem and confidence.

But, I disrespected myself continually. Even in the way I dressed, let alone any of what I did. I degraded myself.

So, I am not judging. I just feel sad that Beyoncé feels the need to remove more and more clothing and become trashy and less mature as she gets older. She is beautiful, talented, amazing singer, dancer – she does not need to wear little and sexualise herself in this way. She says it’s about feminism and empowering women – I disagree, it’s degrading yourself.

Maybe she feels as she gets older, she needs to compete with all the younger celebrities.

If I had a daughter, celebrities like Beyoncé, Miley Cyrus etc..would not be who I would want as role models. I don’t see them as healthy role models, at all.

I don’t think ‘expressing yourself sexually in a public forum’ – is healthy self esteem at all.

I don’t think wearing little in public – is healthy self expression at all.

I think it is a deep need for attention, lack of healthy self worth.

Keep that to your bedroom, with your partner/husband – let him have the thrill of that, but not in public.

I do respect myself and my body enough now, to know, I don’t need to do any of those degrading things anymore.

Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

3 thoughts on “I find watching celebrities, wear less and less sad. Like Beyonce.

  1. Isn’t she a mum now? Maybe she’s trying to show that she’s still got it, and prove to herself that she’s still sexy

    • Yes, that’s possibly what it is, but that’s about lack of self esteem. I think she was so much more beautiful and inspiring when she didn’t need to be half naked and show the world how sexy she is. I think her husband has had some influence too on her increasing sexy image.

  2. A wonderful article and great … thank you for sharing with us .. 🙂