Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.

Need to get back into my faith studies. Study the Proverbs 31 woman.


I have not done much Bible study for the last 2 months, and that’s okay because I have just not been able to.

But, studying my faith, is important to me and I know it will be a lifelong journey of growth.

The Proverb 31 woman, is well known, and gets often talked about. And I have noticed – certain parts ignored, that don’t suit.

(The Baptist Church, I previously went to like to ignore the fact that the Proverbs 31 woman, had her own business and worked. Their limited, immature and sometimes abusive views, were that working women, were wrong. Unchristian. Looked down on. There was a very evident divide between the gang that worked and the gang that were SAHM’s. You had to stay home, raise your children and be in the kitchen, or the bedroom. The men worked and it was considered by them – to emasculate men, if their women worked. But, they have very right wing, abusive and wrong doctrine and beliefs in many things. And the men were narcs, insecure and needed their women to raise them up, to hide their lack.)

But, the Proverbs 31 woman did work. Did have her own business. Her own money. And she respected her husband, it is very possible – to do both. And secure men, will be okay with this.

I don’t want selective Bible verse abuse, as I have seen – I want to know all of God’s Word, is needed, not the parts I find fit with my earthly views/needs.

I know and have seen many get the Bible and their views very wrong and I know God has ensured, I saw all this and learned by these poor examples.

I liked this link, about the Proverbs 31 woman.


There is much debate on what it means to be a ‘good Christian wife’. Some believe that wifely submission means that a wife makes no decisions, isn’t allowed a mind of her own, and has to be at the mercy of a controlling spouse. This is not the case. God expects wives to be able to handle money, to earn their own money (if desired), to be the overseers of their households, and to be able to make important decisions regarding their homes and lives.

One of the best descriptions of what it means to be a Godly wife can be found in the book of Proverbs. In Proverbs 31:10, the question is asked, ‘A wife of noble character, who can find?’, and goes on to say, ‘she is worth far more than rubies’. Basically, announcing that if one manages to find a Godly wife, she is priceless. It implies that she is extremely valuable, so it would only stand to reason that she be treated valuably.

Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

2 thoughts on “Need to get back into my faith studies. Study the Proverbs 31 woman.

  1. I’m glad that you left that church. Amen!