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Watching Sarah Monehan get teary over her mother’s neglect & abandoning her, made me cry .

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http://news.ninemsn.com.au/national/2014/04/09/19/17/hey-dad-co-stars-come-forward-following-robert-hughes-verdict

Sarah Monehan, is a courageous hero – who stood up to the child sex abuser, that not only abused her, but many others. She is amazing. She is someone I consider to have integrity, strength and a capacity to do what is needed no matter how much is hurts, in the process. Robert Hughes is now known to be a child sex offender and people know the truth and this will hopefully reduce the sexual abuse to children.

I believe fully in appropriate consequences, to actions that are chosen to be committed and these 10 crimes are only the ones he has been found to have committed, there will be more. Probably many more. This a reality of thow these predatory paedophiles operate.

I watched A Current Affair, where she bravely spoke about Robert Hughes and about the court case. Sarah became emotional when she spoke of her mother abandoning her, because Sarah decided to go public. Her mother apparently was ‘very upset’.

This reaction from her mother, is all about her mother’s own needs. To stop speaking to her own daughter who decided to courageously do the right thing, which did lead to this man being found guilty of 10 child sexual abuse crimes, that other adults knew were occurring, is so wrong. There could be many reasons, but none will justify refusing to stand by your daughter about child sexual abuse. It also seems that her mother may have known what was occurring when she was a child. I know how that feels too.

I could see the pain in Sarah’s eyes as she spoke of her mother, tried to contain her emotions, and couldn’t.

Of all of what she spoke about, her mother’s reaction, was what has hurt her so deeply. and I know how that feels. I feel deeply for Sarah, it is selfish mother to abandon her daughter when this is going to become public,

To be neglected in the first instance as a child, and then abandoned by your own mother, at a time when you need it, is abuse, mental, emotional abuse and neglect.

I feel very sorry for Sarah. She didn’t deserve any of that.

No-one ever deserves a mother, like that. and she is still clearly affected by it.

It can affect your entire life.

Sarah Monehan’s mother should be incredibly proud of her daughter and owning the neglect and failures by those around her, including her own mother.

Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

4 thoughts on “Watching Sarah Monehan get teary over her mother’s neglect & abandoning her, made me cry .

  1. I totally agree with the previous comments made. I have followed the Robert Hughes trial and the various media stories. What I find to be so utterly vile apart from Robert Hughes’ behaviour and denials, is that other people were aware of the allegations being made by Sarah Monehan all those years ago and chose to ignore it for their own selfish reasons including Sarah’s mother and the producer of the ‘Hey Dad’ series.

    The fact that the careers of Sarah and her former acting colleagues on the program have been adversely impacted due to raising the alarm and going public on the sexual abuse just astounds me.

    I hope the people that have abandoned Sarah, the other female victims and the other cast members of the program who have been heavily criticised, take a good hard look at themselves and how they chose to react to this situation now that Hughes has been found guilty.

    Ignoring sexual abuse is enabling the predators and it is criminal and unacceptable.

    • I agree with everything you have said and well written.

      Sadly, it is often the case that people know about the abuse, but do nothing. And that to me makes them as guilty as the abuser. And I agree it should be criminal.

      Sarah’s mother, plus all the people who knew, or suspected and did nothing to stop Robert Hughes – should all feel deeply ashamed of themselves – but I doubt any of them will – they will make excuses and justifications for their actions, as so many people do.

  2. Reblogged this on Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD and commented:

    I contacted Sarah via Twitter, and let her know I had blogged about her courage. She asked for a link, and then said this blog was really good and re-tweeted it onto her own Twitter account.

    I was very inspired by Sarah’s courage and strength, and I am so glad she liked this blog.

    Being an abuse survivor myself with deep empathy, I am able to understand the pain of others and I am thankful for Sarah’s courage.

    A convicted paedophile sexual predator, is known and guilty, due to her courage, integrity and strength.