More pressure on abuse victims to heal……than for abusers to have consequences.

There is a lot of pressure put on abuse victims to heal….society wants that fast, in a time frame, or you failing.

But, when it comes to the abusers, there is a lack of pressure put on them to admit, repent and put it right. Jail time is pathetic, that’s if they even do any.

Victims are pressured to just move on, forget, forgive. While the abusers get little consequences for the damage they have done.

I’ve also noticed, that victims of abuse – have to not be seen to be emotional, not get upset, or angry.

But abusers can abuse, lie, deceive, devastate lives, and they can carry on, with their lives, as normal. Often because they have no remorse and no empathy. And society is so apathetic about this.

Society doesn’t seem overly concerned to make abusers have the consequences they deserve.

In fact, there is a trend now, of having more compassion for abusive people, than there is for the victims.

And no-where have I seen these attitudes more common – than within Christianity.

This really offends me, and quite frankly pisses me off.

‘Oh that paedophile, that made choices to rape lots of children, devastated their whole lives – he did his 2 years in jail, now we must treat him like a normal, worthy human being, who deserves to have his full freedom and right to live the rest of his life being treated just like everyone else and if you don’t, you are the bad person, not the abuser’.

And to the abuse victims who are struggling, in pain ‘are you not over that yet, you just haven’t sufficiently forgiven, you are choosing to hold in to the past’.

We do truly live in a really sick, unhealthy society and often Christians are the most screwed up and brainwashed of all.

A Poem – The Glass Divide

Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A poem I wrote – about aloneness and being different.

The Glass Divide

Alone
All she knows
Different
To all around
She fails
To be
Like others
Despite
Trying so hard

Her childhood
No love
No safety
No bond
Daydreaming
Numbness
Her constant
Companion
She is alone

As harm
Increases
She learns
Of deeper
Loneliness
Of terminal
Aloneness
Survival
Only need

Living
Alone
Watching others
Her life separated
By glass
Invisible
But there
Constant
Divide

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AA’s ‘Twelve Steps’ – originally founded by Christians. Interesting.

The twelve steps program has been changed and amended many times since it’s original foundation, to assist in a range of problems. I know it’s used by mental health group programs too.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Twelve-step_program

Alcoholics Anonymous (AA), the first twelve-step fellowship, was founded on August 11, 1938 (although some speculate the date as being June 10, 1935 which is the date that Dr. Bob had his last drink) by Bill Wilson and Dr. Bob Smith, known to AA members as “Bill W.” and “Dr. Bob”, in Akron, Ohio. They established the tradition within the “anonymous” twelve-step programs of using only first names “at the level of press, radio and film”.[5]

As AA was growing in the 1930s and 1940s, definite guiding principles began to emerge as the Twelve Traditions. A singleness of purpose emerged as Tradition Five: “Each group has but one primary purpose—to carry its message to the alcoholic who still suffers.”[6] Consequently, drug addicts who do not suffer from the specifics of alcoholism involved in AA hoping for recovery technically are not welcome in “closed” meetings unless they have a desire to stop drinking alcohol.[7] The reason for such emphasis on alcoholism as the problem is to overcome denial and distraction. Thus the principles of AA have been used to form many numbers of other fellowships for those recovering from various pathologies, each of which in turn emphasizes recovery from the specific malady which brought the sufferer into the fellowship.[8]

In 1953 AA gave permission for Narcotics Anonymous to use its Steps and Traditions.[9]

Twelve Steps[edit]

These are the original twelve steps as published by Alcoholics Anonymous:[10]
1.We admitted we were powerless over alcohol—that our lives had become unmanageable.
2.Came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
3.Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.
4.Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
5.Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
6.Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.