There is a lot of pressure put on abuse victims to heal….society wants that fast, in a time frame, or you failing.
But, when it comes to the abusers, there is a lack of pressure put on them to admit, repent and put it right. Jail time is pathetic, that’s if they even do any.
Victims are pressured to just move on, forget, forgive. While the abusers get little consequences for the damage they have done.
I’ve also noticed, that victims of abuse – have to not be seen to be emotional, not get upset, or angry.
But abusers can abuse, lie, deceive, devastate lives, and they can carry on, with their lives, as normal. Often because they have no remorse and no empathy. And society is so apathetic about this.
Society doesn’t seem overly concerned to make abusers have the consequences they deserve.
In fact, there is a trend now, of having more compassion for abusive people, than there is for the victims.
And no-where have I seen these attitudes more common – than within Christianity.
This really offends me, and quite frankly pisses me off.
‘Oh that paedophile, that made choices to rape lots of children, devastated their whole lives – he did his 2 years in jail, now we must treat him like a normal, worthy human being, who deserves to have his full freedom and right to live the rest of his life being treated just like everyone else and if you don’t, you are the bad person, not the abuser’.
And to the abuse victims who are struggling, in pain ‘are you not over that yet, you just haven’t sufficiently forgiven, you are choosing to hold in to the past’.
We do truly live in a really sick, unhealthy society and often Christians are the most screwed up and brainwashed of all.