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A needed role, go around Churches – explain how to appropriately help abuse victims.


Having seen and heard and read of so much abuse that goes on within Christianity – as to how to deal with victims of abuse – I see a need for wise Christians, to go round as many churches as possible, to show them how to deal with it appropriately.

Christians do the following far too much and it is abuse, whether intentionally, or not;

You are not healed from abuse yet because;

– “you just need to pray more”

– “you just haven’t forgiven yet”

– “don’t speak out about the abuse, that isn’t going to help”

– “you are choosing to nurse, rehearse, curse your trauma”

– “you haven’t repented of your own sins enough yet”

– “mental health illness, is evil

– “mental health illness is demonic possession

– “you have a mental health diagnosis, you must be lying/or confused”

– “if you loved God, you wouldn’t have been abused, or have mental health illness”

– “don’t seek counselling, you don’t need it, all you need to do is pray”

– “well I must side with that person you have accused of abuse, because if I don’t, I will get hassle off other church people”

– “you have X amount of time to heal/recover”

– “count your blessings and stop complaining”

– “X had trauma like yours, she got over it much quicker”

– “don’t complain about abuse if it is someone in ministry, because that will hurt too many people”

There are more, and as they come to mind, I will add them. Plus all the abuse, covering up, enabling and all the sociopath apaths.

Feel free to comment with your own spiritually abusive comments you have had from Christians.

I would imagine the person delivering this ‘news’ to Christians, would not be very popular, but they need to be told and how they should view abuse and victims.

Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

3 thoughts on “A needed role, go around Churches – explain how to appropriately help abuse victims.

  1. I honestly can’t continue reading the rest of this I am SO mad that anyone would think they had any right to say this to a person who has been abused!! Like actually my hands are shaking right not and I have tears in my eyes. I am so incredibly sorry if anyone has ever said these terrible things to you!! I read until “you have a mental health diagnosis, you must be lying/or confused”. Sorry it just mad me angry, I have zero tolerance for supposed Christian who think they have a right to treat people like that or think they are God and can tell you “if you loved God, you wouldn’t have been abused, or have mental health illness”. I can’t even think right now sorry God bless you sister! My prayers are always with you! Lots of love and hugs!!!!

    • I’m so sorry, I don’t mean for anyone to feel upset by this. I hope you are okay?

      I have heard several of these myself and I know from others of things they have been told. It all upsets me greatly, because it is all abusive and hurts people even more.

      Thank you for your prayers! ❤

      • Oh no that’s ok. I know we only speak through here but I genuinely care for you and can’t believe all you have been through. You are such an amazing person I just can’t believe people would treat you this way! I am ok just ashamed to call myself a Christian sometimes, ya know? You are most certainly welcome!