Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.

People put limits on others, based upon their own understanding/awareness/capacity.

It is interesting how people put ‘absolutes’ and ‘limits’ in their thinking, based upon their own capacity and their own abilities, or something they read that reinforces their own belief.

If people are capable of altruism – the truly selfless act of doing good for others with no personal gain, or expectation of anything in return..

How can anyone, say that is not possible?

I realise, this is their own capacity for reasons and motivations for doing anything for others, is purely their own level of awareness.

It’s the same as spiritual faith progression. People only know their own level and can’t understand anything higher/further. As so well explained in James Fowler’s Stages of Faith – powerful stuff – for those who ‘get it’.

I know people like this – they believe what they are told, don’t question and think ‘serving’ in their church and family – is all there is. And anyone who doesn’t agree with that – lacks faith. They just don’t see there is more than this for some. Most Christians stay stuck at this stage 3 level and never progress.



It’s also the same for empathy. People who don’t have deep empathy, don’t understand it and often won’t acknowledge it exists. And often simply confuse sympathy, with empathy.

We should never ‘limit’ others, based on our own capacities.

This is lack of EQ, to put absolutes and deny anything different to own understanding/awareness/experience.

I know enough now, to not limit others, because their are billions of brains in this world. How on earth would ‘I’ know what they are all capable of? Who am I – God? Ummm….no! A lesson in ego and humility needed, for anyone who thinks they know how every human brain works.

My lack of ego, knows, to not assume limits, on others.

Especially when I don’t even know them.

Only the human ‘ego’ – limits others, with no evidence to back it up.

Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

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