
I have a Facebook community page, that I set up in Jan 2013. Since then, I have diligently posted a significant amount of info and provided a significant amount of support to people.
But, I have noticed, there are few that offer support back.
AND PEER SUPPORT IS MEANT TO WORK BOTH WAYS.
I have never asked for thanks – but they all know I too, am a healing person, with C-PTSD, they know I go through tough times and yet most of them just take, take, take, and few offer any support back.
Now, as I said, I ‘don’t’ expect or wants thanks for what I do, I do it to help people, BUT, it is ‘not’ too much to ask for support back occasionally.
This had provided a true and very obvious example of how society operates – I want, I deserve, give to me….but I don’t need to do anything back.
‘It’s all about meeeeeee”.
My husband thinks I am wasting my time and most of them are fully egocentric, selfish people who want everything given to them, spoon fed, and will rarely provide support back – as this has now shown.
I have had advice from my professional support about continuing this page too. And social media in general, which I also see adds to unhealthy attitudes, egocentricity and narcissism.
And there are other things I could be doing with my time.
I do also realise that what we allow into our life is what will continue.
I don’t wish to encourage egocentricity and selfishness and I am starting to see – that I am encouraging it. Which is not okay.
And I’m not a hypocrite – there are already enough of those in society – so I will be giving this some more thought and make a decision that will NOT be based upon other people’s needs, but also mine.
And NOT feel guilty about it.
I’m adding to this post as well. As its just come into my mind…
A few months back, my doctor and I were talking and I said something about my Facebook page doing good and I remember her saying ‘does it?’. I picked up on it and just bypassed it, because I know she’s not big fan of social media.
I was also a little irritated (my ego) that she would question how much good ‘I felt’ I was doing…I mean helloooooo – it helps so many people.
Ahhhhhh that pesky ego…
Yeah, I feel embarrassed now. She was challenging me then, that it maybe it isn’t. And…..it’s isn’t, for me, or society. I got there working it out in the end…. 🙂
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