Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.


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Started researching why social media is damaging society & health. Wow!

Yes, it is.

Wow, there is so much info from psychologists, human science experts, and the like on how social media is causing more damage to society, than any good it may do.

I am not going to deny this to myself, or be a hypocrite, or pretend and excuse with I feel it is okay.

I just can’t be someone with apathy, someone who can make justifications and excuses to turn something into what I want to hear.

I just can’t.

Social media is increasing many harmful behaviours, damaging people’s psyche’s, causing ridiculous amounts of bullying and narcissism, hindering social skills, hindering education, encourages oversharing, damaging memory, social skills, hindering people getting out and having real interactions, increasing anti-social personalities, anger, aggression, increasing a whole mass of uneducated and unwise opinions and advice, flushing away what used to be genuine emotions and interactions and so much more.

Wow.

That is a whole lotta bad influence and harm.

Scary, actually.


APATHY, EGOCENTRICITY, NARCISSISM – Are the most deadly diseases of modern society.

Sadly, most people, have no insight into this.

And even when you inform them, educate them – they don’t want to know and reject it, ignore it, avoid it – which is exactly what they will do – because they have the deadly diseases.

And these diseases, are right throughout society – and Christianity too.

Sad.

Perfect example today.

“Done nothing to me so I don’t care”.

Truly pathetic and no clue. And proud of it.

Sad. So sad.


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Having a ‘what the hell am I doing’ moment.

I have a Facebook community page, that I set up in Jan 2013. Since then, I have diligently posted a significant amount of info and provided a significant amount of support to people.

But, I have noticed, there are few that offer support back.

AND PEER SUPPORT IS MEANT TO WORK BOTH WAYS.

I have never asked for thanks – but they all know I too, am a healing person, with C-PTSD, they know I go through tough times and yet most of them just take, take, take, and few offer any support back.

Now, as I said, I ‘don’t’ expect or wants thanks for what I do, I do it to help people, BUT, it is ‘not’ too much to ask for support back occasionally.

This had provided a true and very obvious example of how society operates – I want, I deserve, give to me….but I don’t need to do anything back.

‘It’s all about meeeeeee”.

My husband thinks I am wasting my time and most of them are fully egocentric, selfish people who want everything given to them, spoon fed, and will rarely provide support back – as this has now shown.

I have had advice from my professional support about continuing this page too. And social media in general, which I also see adds to unhealthy attitudes, egocentricity and narcissism.

And there are other things I could be doing with my time.

I do also realise that what we allow into our life is what will continue.

I don’t wish to encourage egocentricity and selfishness and I am starting to see – that I am encouraging it. Which is not okay.

And I’m not a hypocrite – there are already enough of those in society – so I will be giving this some more thought and make a decision that will NOT be based upon other people’s needs, but also mine.

And NOT feel guilty about it.

I’m adding to this post as well. As its just come into my mind…

A few months back, my doctor and I were talking and I said something about my Facebook page doing good and I remember her saying ‘does it?’. I picked up on it and just bypassed it, because I know she’s not big fan of social media.

I was also a little irritated (my ego) that she would question how much good ‘I felt’ I was doing…I mean helloooooo – it helps so many people.

Ahhhhhh that pesky ego…

Yeah, I feel embarrassed now. She was challenging me then, that it maybe it isn’t. And…..it’s isn’t, for me, or society. I got there working it out in the end…. 🙂


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People are weird…..I’m weird…..everyone is weird. My conclusion for today! I think?

I’ve decided I like weird.

Or ‘different’ – is probably the more ‘acceptable’ word.

I don’t have to accept the bad, harmful, abusive, lying, manipulative stuff.

But, I do accept, I do not have to feel fear about people who are weird/different.

I know many in the past and now, consider me weird/different.

I’m sure it will make life, a lot easier, to tolerate weird a little more.

How to balance that with not being apathetic, well, that’s a tricky one.

And now I can feel my anxiety increase, just thinking about not wanting to become apathetic.

Why could my brain just not stick at everyone’s weird????


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A perfect example of a highly unwise Quote.

A perfect example of highly unwise advice peddled in society…

“Everybody is special. Everybody. Everybody is a hero, a lover, a fool, a villain. Everybody. Everybody has their story to tell.”
– Alan Moore

My response…

“What utter rubbish. Paedophiles, child molesters, serial rapists, serial murderers, harmful and abusive narcissists/sociopaths/psychopaths? Are they hero’s? Are they lovers?

As long as society peddles these unwise views, all the people who are not these things – continue to believe they are fine and don’t need to change.

So many people churn out these quotes and have no clue of the bigger picture. They just say what they want to believe about themselves.”

These quotes – peddled around society, are just so beyond inaccurate and so wrong.

THERE ARE REAONS WHY SOCIETY IS BECOMING INCREASINLY UNHEALTHY – DON’T BE A PART OF THAT!

They encourage unhealthy people (which is the majority of the population – most just don’t know it) – to think they are special and don’t need to change, self reflect or grow.

And this is part of the many reasons, society is encouraging and increasing unhealthy thinking, cognitive distortions, harmful behaviours, abuse, narcissism etc.

BUT THOSE WHO CANNOT SEE THIS, UNDERSTAND THIS AND DON’T HAVE INSIGHT – BUT FEEL ENTITLED TO GIVE ADVICE ANYWAY, CONTINUE, HAVING NO CLUE OF THE DAMAGE THEY ARE DOING. OFTEN JUSTIFYING IT. THEIR EGO UNABLE TO ACCPET THEY ARE DOING WRONG AND OFTEN WHAT THEY ARE DOING, IS SELF INTERESTED ANYWAY.

Yes, these quotes may be what society wants to hear, but they are not what society NEEDS to hear.