Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.


Yes, I am a Christian. No, I don’t need to honour and respect abusive parents.

“Why isn’t there a commandment to “honor thy children” or at least one to “not abuse thy children”? The notion that we must honor our parents causes many people to bury their real feelings and set aside their own needs in order to have a relationship with people they would otherwise not associate with.

Parents, like anyone else, need to earn respect and honor, and honoring parents who are negative and abusive is not only impossible but extremely self-abusive. Perhaps, as with anything else, honoring our parents starts with honoring ourselves. For many adult children, honoring themselves means not having anything to do with one or both of their parents.”

― Beverly Engel, Divorcing a Parent

Christianity often gets so much of what is stated in the Bible wrong. Particularly when it comes to abuse.

God does not want us to be in any relationships where abuse is occurring, where it will not stop. Anyone who thinks you have to say married to an abusive person, or have contact with abusive parents etc, are very wrong, and have no idea of God’s pure character.

God is pure love.

Would God want anyone to be abused, for the sake of adhering to a Bible quote, often taken out of context? Continue reading


Enemies….my thoughts on them.

You cannot do good in this world without creating enemies. That’s humanity for you.

I don’t believe in repaying evil, with evil. But I don’t believe in ignoring evil either, not when people are being hurt.

I don’t believe in apathy when it comes to abusive people.

I do believe in exposing them, if it is needed to help others to know what these people really are.

I do believe in going to the police etc, if crimes have been committed.

I also believe in praying for your enemies. And forgiving them.

But that does not mean cheap grace.

That’s wisdom, courage and integrity.


I cannot approve any comments, by new unknown visitors at the moment…

I am currently being harassed and stalked by someone who has been very abusive to so many people and the person is now obsessed and attacking me any way possible..

I have received abusive messages here which have not been approved, and I am aware any further new commenters may be this person.

I have been told by many others, who know this person, that setting up false name accounts to harass people, is this persons typical way of abusing people – he has done this to many, over a period of years. The obvious enduring traits of a personality disorder of narcissism/sociopath. Along with the pathological lying, the anger, domestic violence, being a media whore, the grandiose needs of being the biggest and best, fictitious points scoring (sociopath 10 – me 0) and trampling over anyone to get what he needs and so much more.

At the moment he is calling himself ‘Narc’. How appropriate.

So, until the matter in hand is dealt with, I cannot approve comments from anyone unless I know who they are, by being another well established blog, website etc.

Hate is a terrible emotion to be inflicted with and to set up hate pages, continually needing to harass people because they speak the truth, shows a deeply unwell, hurt person who has sociopathic/narcissistic traits and needs help.

I actually feel deeply sorry for anyone who needs to set up or be involved in hate pages, when they don’t know the truth and they have this deep obsessive need to be vile and hate people, instead of getting on with their lives.

It must be terribly dark in the mind of being stuck in this need to want to think about me, obsess about me, find any lie to hate about me, to the point this person has taken it, along with his sociopath apaths/minions.

The truth must always be spoken.

Abuse must be dealt with and not ignored.

But hate, bitterness, stalking and harassing many people, lies, threats – all from a dark heart.

I do feel sorry for people like this, I don’t want for them to be this way.

But, I cannot fix them, heal them.

There is actually a part of me that wants to hug them and try help them with their hate within themselves (that is really about themselves) from eating them up. But, I can’t.

(Update 27/04/14, 6 people with anon accounts, have sent messages to this blog. None have been approved, but their messages kept and recorded).