“Why isn’t there a commandment to “honor thy children” or at least one to “not abuse thy children”? The notion that we must honor our parents causes many people to bury their real feelings and set aside their own needs in order to have a relationship with people they would otherwise not associate with.
Parents, like anyone else, need to earn respect and honor, and honoring parents who are negative and abusive is not only impossible but extremely self-abusive. Perhaps, as with anything else, honoring our parents starts with honoring ourselves. For many adult children, honoring themselves means not having anything to do with one or both of their parents.”
― Beverly Engel, Divorcing a Parent
Christianity often gets so much of what is stated in the Bible wrong. Particularly when it comes to abuse.
God does not want us to be in any relationships where abuse is occurring, where it will not stop. Anyone who thinks you have to say married to an abusive person, or have contact with abusive parents etc, are very wrong, and have no idea of God’s pure character.
God is pure love.
Would God want anyone to be abused, for the sake of adhering to a Bible quote, often taken out of context?
No, of course He would not.
That would be having to tolerate evil, and God does not want evil tolerated.
The abusive person is the one who broke the relationship, not the victim. God knows that.
Far to much abuse is perpetuated within Christianity, women shamed into staying with abusive husbands, adult children of abusive parents – shamed into believing God will hate them if they don’t reconcile with them.
Christianity is often more screwed up about anything abuse related, than secular society.
I will not tolerate any of that.