Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.

A needed post for my Facebook Community, about the differing needs of many..


Something I have noticed and I’ll explain, as best I can..

—When I post positive quotes and posts….some people find this hurtful, and invalidating – which I do understand. But they do help the people who need them.

—When I post about how hard this journey is and my own fears etc……some people claim I am too negative and claim I promote not healing. But they do help the people who are in that place and need validation.

But, I cannot help every individual, with every post. Not unless I keep the posts very surface level and vague. Which to me, is pointless.

Please know – all I can write about, is my deep honesty of how I feel, what I have experienced, what I research, what the experts say, what I have learned in counselling and what may be helpful and useful for community members.

Not all posts will help every community member – they just can’t – because we are all very individual, with different needs at any one time. And that is okay.

None of my posts – are ever meant with any intention other than to help someone – and they always do. But they can’t help everyone.

My posts are just from my heart and because I care.

I hope people can have understanding of how difficult it can be to be an admin (and a healing person too) of a group with such individual and differing needs.

I do try my very best, and I do care.

If a post isn’t what you need to hear, please know – that is not meant to hurt you at all – and please know you can take or leave what you feel is helpful.

Much love, Lilly ❤

This received all positive responses, which is good. People do need to remember, we are all different and have different needs and are at different points in our journey. And we all need to remember in a community, it isn’t just about our own needs. It is about 13,0000 + people.

These were a few of the many responses….

“I think this post is the best one ever written! Admins on other pages/groups might want to post it too. It’s perfectly worded, and I understand your dilemma. Personally, if a post isn’t what I need to hear right then, I just skip to the next one, unless it sounds like someone else really needs my help (my comment of advice or praise).”

“You post the truth, which can be both painful and liberating.
My psychologist uses the word “unpack” when talking about our sessions. I told him once that “unpack” reminded me of wound healing. It is a way to assess the wound and promote the healing process but it is painful. In therapy we unpack our wounds and repack them in order to face the world–only to unpack them again during the next session.
Facing the truth is often painful, just like wound healing–but in the end there is liberation.”

“I cant understand why, if they have suffered, they attack!!!! They don’t feel they are being validated through your posts??? If they attack I suggest they are a bit narcissistic only caring about themselves xxxxxxxxxxxxx”

“just keep doing what you are doing—and let the nay sayers go—every post you put up has something in it for someone–if they just care to really listen—it is up to us to find our truth in your message–”

“You help me a lot..its your page, its your feelings, we do the best we can with our pages…Love you and thank you for all you do, Having pages isn’t easy and we are not going to please everyone…Keep up the great work, Love and Hugs ~~Sandy~~ PTSD and info page !”

Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

2 thoughts on “A needed post for my Facebook Community, about the differing needs of many..

  1. All we can do is share what we know and feel… People have the freedom to not read a post that doesn’t resonate with them. 💜AoA