Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.

Being an ‘over-sharer’ is not the problem – it’s people’s reactions, and in turn, my reactions.


I am someone who would be considered to be an ‘over-sharer’. I’m quite sure that in psychology terms I would be considered someone without healthy enough boundaries.

I believe being someone so open – is about honesty, realness, rawness, courage. Not needing to wear a mask like most people do, to hide the bad parts.

Being an over-sharer is not the problem.

It’s all the nasty, lying, manipulative, selfish, narcissistic, abusive people, who use this deep honesty, for their own needs, and hurt us, that is the problem.

Having tighter boundaries on what I share, for me, is not the issue.

It is not ‘caring’ when people don’t like this, or when people say shit about me, or not caring if people try to use it with bad intentions – is what I am striving for.

Because, I don’t intend to not be ‘me’, anymore.

I won’t hide who I am, for others.

I won’t wear a mask.

This is about developing enough self esteem and self confidence for who I am, that the reactions of others, does not bother me in the slightest.

That is my aim and I am getting there.

Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

3 thoughts on “Being an ‘over-sharer’ is not the problem – it’s people’s reactions, and in turn, my reactions.

  1. Well done, you’ve to be what you are, not what others expect of you. If they like a ‘fake you’, they don’t really love you. Just be yourself. People who like this, are the ones who really love you by what you are, not the idea of you that you (shouldn’t) project 🙂

    David CYPD

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