Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.

Traumatised people can act in a way non traumatised people may not. So please don’t judge.

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A popular and needed post to my page, to help survivors understand and hopefully educate others a little more too.

“Why didn’t you just leave?” I get so annoyed when I see questions and judgments like this made about why people stay in abusive situations or relationships.

There are many reasons…

Fear…mind control…brainwashing…threats…believing nothing better is deserved…trauma bonding…believing it will result in losing contact with children…not knowing anything different…no support…

And many more reasons.

None of which warrant judgment or assumptions, or the cruel and hurtful comments, that some people feel entitled to say.

Traumatised people, make decisions that are not always considered to be the most appropriate – but they are all the traumatised person can do, at that time.

For me – in my worst trauma period, I told the police when they asked me this question.. “why didn’t I just leave?”..

“The fear of what would happen if I left….was worse than the fear of what would happen if I stayed.”

Plus I was very traumatised and had no support at all.

Please know – I do not in any way judge you, at all. I do understand.

Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

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