Do abusers know what they are doing is wrong?
Most abusers, do know right from wrong.
Most abusers, do hide what they do.
Most abusers, do lie about it.
Most abusers, will not own up to it.
There are few mental health issues that render someone incapable of making a choice to abuse, or not to abuse, psychosis can be one, schizophrenia can be another.
But, Narcissists, Sociopaths, Psychopaths, Paedophiles etc…
All KNOW what they are doing is wrong – they just don’t care – due to lack of empathy, lack of remorse, although they can pretend to have them.
All my abusers, absolutely knew what they were doing was wrong, because they hid it, lied about it, denied it, minimized it.
I can and I do have compassion for anyone with any mental health issues –
BUT this is ‘never’ to be used to justify/enable/minimize the ‘choices’ they made to abuse and the damage and harm they caused.
It was a CHOICE they made.
This was a very painful realisation to get my head around, as some of my abusers were family.
But I needed to understand this.