Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.

Abusers, liars, narcissists, will all want their victims to keep quiet…..


Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

Of course they do – they don’t want the truth about them exposed.

This will apply to all forms of abusers – mental, sexual, physical, psychological, verbal, spiritual and whether to adults, or children.

They know what they are doing is wrong.

If they hide their behaviour, or try to silence you, they DO know what they are doing is wrong.

The abuse was still a choice, they decided to make.

They will manipulate this ‘silence’ in a variety of ways;

Threats to the victim.

Shaming the victim.

Lies about the victim. Including lying by omission, lying by failing to tell the truth to others who wrongly believe/assume something about the victim.

Gaslighting – making the victim not believe their own truth, confusing them.

Blaming the victim.

Emotional abuse – eg saying the family will suffer.

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Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

2 thoughts on “Abusers, liars, narcissists, will all want their victims to keep quiet…..

  1. Thank you for this post. It’s spot on.
    Hugs to you.

  2. So true! My abusers were “friends,” not family, yet the same thing applied: After we broke off relations with them because of the abuse, I took to blogging to deal with my overwhelming grief and anger. One of them was a dear friend, but he treated me like I deserved the abuse. Without blogging, I was at risk of getting swallowed up by the constant perseveration. I wrote that if their church folded and they began coming to mine, I’d have to go to my priest for help.

    They found the blog, and actually threatened to sue me. I was scared, and easily intimidated, but I kept the blog up–and still spoke to my priest. And my friends and family as well. Some mutual friends know as well. And yet–two years later, no lawsuit.

    Posts like yours tell me that they threatened me because they knew they were doing something wrong, and wanted to silence me.