Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

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I can live my life as a true Christian, without church….but the stage 3 er’s, won’t agree.


I am aware of the stages of faith. I read it and it was a huge light bulb moment for me.

I know most church people need church and I am not invalidating that, or saying their needs are wrong.

Yet, many will be quick to dismiss my decision to not attend church.

I am and I intend being a witness of my faith, without having to park my butt every Sunday morning on a pew.

I believe the Bible talks about church, because God knows how many need that – how many need constant reminders, they need herding like sheep. They need to belong and have their groups, like teenagers do. Mostly this is not about community, or being a witness, it is because most church goers, are either not Christians at all, or are at that stage 3 faith progression and will stay stuck and need church due to that.

Which is good and fine and they can do that, but it is all the more obvious what stage they are at, when they claim that all ‘Christians’ need church.


Not all witnesses and those journeying with Jesus, need church at all.

Some have a different path, to walk amongst non Christians. Be a witness to many, not within the confines of a church.

And, I have realised, this role is reserved for the very strong. The courageous. Those who do not ‘need’ herding, like a sheep.

Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

5 thoughts on “I can live my life as a true Christian, without church….but the stage 3 er’s, won’t agree.

  1. I agree, you don’t need to go to church.

    I think what people are talking about is ‘fellowship’ & ‘community’.
    which is a huge part of church life.

    I’m not a Christian but I went to church twice a week because I wanted community.
    years later I realised I was telling lies, and stopped going.
    Naughty Gavin.

    these days I find community at other places.

  2. Thank you for sharing, I have never seen this diagram but I really like it. I have been Stage 3 & 4 but now I think I am sitting on that red wall…at least I am not up against it.

  3. WOW!!!!!!!!!! I have never seen this before!!! I have never been sure if I’m following HIS path. I can, with all honesty that I am I between 5 and 6. I’m just starting my journey into the love transformation. I want to cry now.

  4. I commend your decision as I have made the same one! I have not attended in a long time. The bible also says “where two or more are gathered so to will I be there” He doesn’t talk about the structure of wood and brick. He talks about the union and fellowship of His people. God bless you sister!

  5. Church can also be a major trigger for those who have church trauma, as it seems you have (based on previous posts). I also have church trauma and I push myself to go to church. I don’t know if it’s right or wrong, because for that reason Sundays are really hard for me. Church is a major trigger. I understand why you choose not to go. My only consolation is that I want my kids to have a hunger for church- that’s why I go.