Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.

Empathy & compassion, for those who ‘really’ need it – that society often ignores.


I am someone who has such deep compassion and empathy for sufferers of abuse and trauma, who have endured things no-one should ever endure.

I openly admit, I find it harder to have compassion for those who have had relatively average lives that have not included abuse, trauma etc.

And yet, I know some will consider I do not have enough compassion for everyone. Especially church people, who like to hammer on about compassion.

Well my answer to that is, there are plenty of people willing to offer support to those who complain about normal life experiences…

And not enough people who offer the compassion and empathy needed to those who have ‘really’ suffered in life, with ongoing, prolonged abuse, child abuse and deeply impacting trauma.

Society does support complaining about minor issues in life, and does like to dismiss the real suffering – due to issues that many do not wish to have to think about, because they are taboo subjects that are uncomfortable to think about and upset comfortable lives…

Like suicidal thoughts, incest, child sexual abuse, abuse from paedophiles/narcissists/sociopaths/psychopaths, self harm, substance abuse, eating disorders etc.

But, I will talk about them – because I know the deep pain people can be in and how they are the ones who truly need support, compassion, empathy, love, non judgment – all the things society often fails to offer.

I understand prolonged deep pain, suffering, complete aloneness….so yes, I will support people who know this too.

That doesn’t mean I lack compassion and empathy, it means I have more and know where the support is needed in a far greater way.

And I am very secure in my understanding of this.

Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

3 thoughts on “Empathy & compassion, for those who ‘really’ need it – that society often ignores.

  1. You are one of a few that acknowledge, stand with dignity and voice humanities causes of concern but one of many that remain silent to the individuals in power of position. Truly to have depth of empathy across the wide section of many different causes, amplifies the inner emotional, compassionate heart in connecting with people beyond ones own tumultuous journey through life.

  2. thank you for your compassion.