I completely disagree, with this concept that we can ‘thank’ abusive people – for being a part of our growth.
That is condoning what they did, as okay.
Their abuse was never okay, no matter what the outcome.
I will thank ‘myself’, for using what caused me great harm, to strengthen myself, and grow and my willingness to do that.
But, I will never thank an abuser, for being an abuser.
I will never thank an abuser for the harm and suffering they made a choice to inflict.
I find it bizarre, when people make such statements.
You can just imagine the abuser reading how the victim is thanking them – and thinking ‘see – you did need/deserve it’.
Talk about abuse enabling.
I think any concept where abuse is condoned, thanked etc – is very unhealthy and about the victim trying to find a positive – that is not a healthy one at all.
You can forgive, without thanking them.