Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.

Just because I am strong enough to have endured it, does not mean I deserved it.

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Just because I am strong enough to have endured severe, multiple, prolonged complex trauma/abuse..

Does not mean I ever deserved even a minute of it.

And no matter what I did, or didn’t do, it did not ever give anyone the right to abuse me.

No-one ever deserves abuse.

No matter what any abusive, or unhealthy people may say.

The abuse, was always a choice by the abusers.

A choice ‘they’ made. Their blame. Their guilt. Their shame. Whether to choose to own that or not.

I still need to remind myself of this, often.

To replace the old belief systems seared into my soul, by all the abusive people I have endured.

Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

3 thoughts on “Just because I am strong enough to have endured it, does not mean I deserved it.

  1. The abuser will often say “they asked for it. It’s very common.
    Even my mother said it to me in my early 20s.
    I do my best not to get angry by these statements and choose to keep my distance from such people.
    Gavin.

  2. Your strength is within your mind and your heart and in the words you project across to many others, who are then able to share your values of compassion and empathy.