Just because I am strong enough to have endured severe, multiple, prolonged complex trauma/abuse..
Does not mean I ever deserved even a minute of it.
And no matter what I did, or didn’t do, it did not ever give anyone the right to abuse me.
No-one ever deserves abuse.
No matter what any abusive, or unhealthy people may say.
The abuse, was always a choice by the abusers.
A choice ‘they’ made. Their blame. Their guilt. Their shame. Whether to choose to own that or not.
I still need to remind myself of this, often.
To replace the old belief systems seared into my soul, by all the abusive people I have endured.