Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.

Why no-one is entitled to an opinion on the severity of my trauma.


The trauma i endured as a child, no-one witnessed, bar the abusers themselves, my mother, step father, the paedophile, the pyschopath.

My sisters were too young and were treated differently. The one sister was also abused by the paedophile when she was young. She didn’t go to his home, she wasn’t with me when I was made to watch porn, sexually abused for around 3 years. She wasn’t sent by our mother to this paedophiles home. I don’t know the extent of the abuse to her and she does not know the extent to me.

I was the family scapegoat, blamed for everything, including my sisters abuse, when I was 12. Typical highly abusive behaviours of  the severely abusive behaviour of narcissistic and sociopathic parents. My sisters were conditioned into joining in this behaviour too, so they will not accept this truth.

My sisters were too young to see the extensive grooming by the psychopath, and no-one was present during it, after i was set up to be hated by my family and became the psycho’s captivity sex slave. 

This was the abuse during the first 20 years of my life. Plenty have had opinions on this, but none have any right to an opinion, including my sisters, or other family members, because they were not there. Their opinion, means nothing. 

Abusers do not admit their abuse, or wear a sign that says they are an abuser.

Abuse within families, can be kept secret for lifetimes and go to the grave, unless someone has the courage and support needed to expose it.

Exposing family abuse always leads to denial, anger, rejection etc, by other family members either in denial, or preferring to reject for own reasons.

But, the one who does expose it, is the hero, no matter what the opinion of others may be. If those who reject this truth weren’t there, their opinion isn’t based on fact, and is invalid.

I learned the only way to deal with anyone who rejects my truth, is to keep them out of my life. It’s not my job to educate them about their invalid opinions, judgments and wrong assumptions. It is my job to ensure my healthy boundaries, to keep toxicity out of my life.

We cannot control the behaviours and attitudes of others, we can only manage what we allow in to our lives.

Continuing relationships with toxic people, is a form of self harm.

Healing cannot occur within toxic relationships.

Even if family.

Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

6 thoughts on “Why no-one is entitled to an opinion on the severity of my trauma.

  1. Fab post.
    Strong & clear.

  2. Yes, I agree…wonderful post. It has me thinking about a 9 yr old girl who saw her step-father with her older sister and she told someone…how brave was that! She is an awesome kid.

  3. Your truth, indeed you shouldn’t affected by someone else’s opinion. For you know your truth, and you are free to speak it.

  4. Bless you and thank you. Everyone experiences things according to their viewpoint. Therefore I am in complete agreeance, no one has a right to judge, blame, point a finger, they don’t know, they can’t understand, they should not interject. Great post.

  5. I’m thankful this post was positive for people and helpful, in any way ❤

  6. this is hard for me to read. I did pick up on very strong boundaries. I want that. I agree the abuser wont admit fault.