The trauma i endured as a child, no-one witnessed, bar the abusers themselves, my mother, step father, the paedophile, the pyschopath.
My sisters were too young and were treated differently. The one sister was also abused by the paedophile when she was young. She didn’t go to his home, she wasn’t with me when I was made to watch porn, sexually abused for around 3 years. She wasn’t sent by our mother to this paedophiles home. I don’t know the extent of the abuse to her and she does not know the extent to me.
I was the family scapegoat, blamed for everything, including my sisters abuse, when I was 12. Typical highly abusive behaviours of the severely abusive behaviour of narcissistic and sociopathic parents. My sisters were conditioned into joining in this behaviour too, so they will not accept this truth.
My sisters were too young to see the extensive grooming by the psychopath, and no-one was present during it, after i was set up to be hated by my family and became the psycho’s captivity sex slave.
This was the abuse during the first 20 years of my life. Plenty have had opinions on this, but none have any right to an opinion, including my sisters, or other family members, because they were not there. Their opinion, means nothing.
Abusers do not admit their abuse, or wear a sign that says they are an abuser.
Abuse within families, can be kept secret for lifetimes and go to the grave, unless someone has the courage and support needed to expose it.
Exposing family abuse always leads to denial, anger, rejection etc, by other family members either in denial, or preferring to reject for own reasons.
But, the one who does expose it, is the hero, no matter what the opinion of others may be. If those who reject this truth weren’t there, their opinion isn’t based on fact, and is invalid.
I learned the only way to deal with anyone who rejects my truth, is to keep them out of my life. It’s not my job to educate them about their invalid opinions, judgments and wrong assumptions. It is my job to ensure my healthy boundaries, to keep toxicity out of my life.
We cannot control the behaviours and attitudes of others, we can only manage what we allow in to our lives.
Continuing relationships with toxic people, is a form of self harm.
Healing cannot occur within toxic relationships.
Even if family.