This was a post on my page, that was liked a lot, and also made a few laugh.
I’m always happy when I make an abuse survivor laugh. Even on days, where laughing is not possible for me, I am happy to make others feel better, smile. laugh.
When truly healing from abuse and trauma, it is impossible and not normal, and not healthy – to force yourself to be happy every day.
To heal, emotions and grieving need to be felt and processed.
It annoys me, when I see people ‘insisting’ that people healing should be spewing rainbows and pooping butterflies every day.
Unprocessed, suppressed emotions, never go away, they worsen and affect all future relationships and quality of life.
The ‘focus on the good’ brigade, need to learn about psychology.
Yes, when I can feel good, laugh, giggle, have fun – I do and make the most of it, and cherish it.
But, no, I cannot feel that every day.
And this is absolutely normal, when healing from abuse and trauma and PTSD/CPTSD.
Don’t allow others, to deny your rightful and needed emotions and hinder your healing.