Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.

Resisting the urge, to point out the obvious :)


During my last session with my doctor, she stated an activity that she had done over the weekend with her family, which was lovely and I am really happy for her and told her I though this was lovely 🙂

This activity requires money. It’s expensive. My doctor is middle class.

She talked about this activity being so good for discipline for children etc and as she talked, it was as if she was suggesting to me, that it would be great for my family…..which I’m sure it would…

Except, we are working class, on one low income, with no money for any extras, no money for luxuries of the society in which we reside, no money for expensive….anything’s.

I know she meant no harm, at all. But, I had to resist the urge to point out the obvious, that we are lower income working class, and she is wealthy middle class and I’m sure that activity would be fab for everyone, but we are not all able to access, most of what then middle classes can.

People with money, have no clue what it is like to have a lot less.

I don’t care what anyone wants to say about money….there is more stress in life, when you have a lot less money. Because you cannot afford nice holidays and fantastic activities for your family, that create more joy and happiness.

But, I don’t complain about this, because I know my family are very rich, compared to most of world. And I feel deeply blessed and content, with what we have.

It is true though, that you only really know, what you have personally endured.

So, no, we wont be doing that lovely, expensive activity that my doctor felt so pleased she could start doing again, after 2 years of being unable to. Which I am genuinely very happy for her and her family to have the luxury of being able to enjoy.

And, we will be happy and content, and gain just as much from, the free activities that our family enjoy, like going to the beach and the park.

And know, that we don’t actually need, anymore than that.

Because God provides a lot of what we ‘need’, free.


Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

2 thoughts on “Resisting the urge, to point out the obvious :)

  1. I hear you! We are in your same boat financially

    • I hope you don’t have financial stress ❤

      I consider it a blessing that I have become so content with a low income. As long as we have enough to pay the bills, buy what our children need for school etc, then I am happy.

      I'm only unhappy with that – when I let society dictate what we 'need'.