Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.

I know my views on spanking/smacking children, are unpopular. I don’t care.


I’m not a hypocrite and abuse is abuse.

Deliberately inflicting pain on a child – and calling it discipline, is abuse.

Smacking, spanking, any of it, that involves deliberately inflicting pain, is assault, and abuse.

Children don’t have a voice, so I will be one.

Adults don’t want to be hit – so how it is acceptable to hit children?

I admit, I have smacked my children a handful of times in the past, and I deeply regret it and I have apologised to them.

I am honest, not a hypocrite and I don’t make justifications and excuses for doing wrong. I own it. Fully. I have courage to do that.

I have humility to know that experts know better than I do and it makes sense to me, when I read all the massive amounts of research and now neuroscience proving the damage physical abuse – spanking, hitting, does.

And I do not use the Bible as an excuse to spank my children by interpreting the Bible wrongly to fit my own earthly, dark, sinful needs.

There are no studies that show smacking, spanking is an effective way to manage behaviour.

But plenty that show how it affects a child’s growing brain and causes long term consequences.

And evidence that in countries where all forms of hitting children have been outlawed, crime, gun ownership, abuse and prison populations reduced considerably.

It takes courage and integrity to tell parents via social media that what they are doing is abuse – with info and links as to why.

If they don’t like it, that is not my problem.

I am more aware/concerned about their children’s long term health, than they are.

Child abuse, is everyone’s problem, everyone’s responsibility.

And virtually all people who abuse, in any form – won’t have the courage to accept it’s abuse and make excuses. Parents often being the worst.

Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

3 thoughts on “I know my views on spanking/smacking children, are unpopular. I don’t care.

  1. I agree with this. I think what convinced me was realizing that spanking promotes obedience out of fear of physical pain and the constant threat of it, distrust, and not understanding what it was they did wrong. If parents are raising children to be able to cope with adulthood then it makes sense to do away with spanking.